23 and still single?

23 and still single?

It seems as if everyone over the age of 16 needs to be in a relationship. I have been single since I was 17 years old, so for 6 years. Why have I decided to be single by choice and why are too many people in relationships that are not real?

People are constantly asking me why I'm still single. I wouldn't say that I am so terribly ugly or have a bad personality. At times, I consider myself quite beautiful, I am quite nice and charming, am well educated. There are many reasons actually.

The most important thing is, that I have put school and work before everything else. Education and career are very important to me. I am not a person who would be a housewife. I cannot imagine being at home all day long, cleaning, cooking and taking care of children. I assume being a housewife is quite difficult at times, but this is simply not me. I want to have a career, I want to be important in this great big world.

I am too independent. I don't need anyone. I enjoy being in solitude. I am not sure if I even have any feelings left in me. You see, there's this guy and we sort of live together. By that I mean that he spends a lot of time at my place. He's really, really hot but I don't feel anything towards him. I like it when he is here, but then again I want to kick him out as soon as he gets here. What we have is really confusing and even I don't understand it. I am sure he doesn't either. I sort of enjoy it, he keeps me company. I have kicked him out many times, but for some reason he keeps coming back and I keep letting him in. I wonder how long it takes until there are some kind of feelings involved?

I am actually scared of dating. I think that the other person will fall in love with me and I end up breaking their heart. This has happened many times before and I think this will happen again. Usually I scare the people, who are interested in me, away. Or run away myself. I am scared of being in a commitment with someone. I get bored of people very easily, hence many failed relationships. Yes, I have had one official boyfriend, because my other relationships have ended before they have really even begun.

But why are so many people in relationships that are not real? I think they are just scared of being alone. They need to be with someone, even if this someone doesn't mean anything to them. They think that they cannot make it alone, and as a result are very unhappy.

My friendly advice is to learn how to be alone. Find things that you like to do. Don't depend on other people, it is the worst mistake you can make. I know it's difficult at first, but trust me, it's all worth it!

Why do you think people are in relationships that are meant to be doomed?

Published by Adeliina Pahapill

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