Though it is said that mistakes are part of life, there are many mistakes that are avoidable because they are unnecessary. That mistakes are part of life should also not be as an excuse to approach life carelessly. In my opinion, it is better to avoid the mistakes that are avoidable, while we learn how to properly deal with those that we may not be able to avoid. It is also very important that we open our eyes and minds to learn from the mistakes of those who have gone ahead of us.
Each time I have the opportunity to converse with students, especially undergraduates, and I see them making the same mistakes we made while on campus, it weakens my compassionate heart. During the cause of my interaction with students and many young people, there are some things I see them do and I ask myself, “Do these people know the kind of outcome their actions will produce?”
The race of life is not all about being an intelligently brilliant young chap, neither is it about being strong (please read, meditate on and pray with Ecclesiastes 9:11-12). Do you know that many first class students have gone down the drain?
Many young people, especially students, live as if all that is to life is now, a mistake many live to regret later. Let me quickly share with you a few of the mistakes I have seen many make over and over again.
Building Networks: Many students go to school and graduate without deliberately building well-meaning relationships. Robert Kiyosaki, the author of “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” puts it this way, “The rich build networks and everyone else looks for work.” As good I was in making friends, while I was an undergraduate, I regret not building enough networks. Though, during my postgraduate program, I deliberately built some quality networks, showing that I have learnt from mistakes of the past. But why did I have to wait that long…these skills are not really taught in school.
Capacity Development: Dear friends, as much as it is important to face your studies, you must not neglect the development of your capacity as a student. Do all you can to build your capacity: do all you can to add value to yourself; attend seminars, read inspirational books, study biographies, join professional and well-meaning associations. You can never tell where you’d be in the nearest future. Your time in school is not just for academic purpose, neither is it all about getting good grades, it is also a time to build and develop your capacity in other areas of life.
What Next: Towards the end of my undergraduate program, I wrote a poem titled, “What Next” which I shared with most of my colleagues. Many of them acknowledged how much the piece opened their eyes and awakened their consciousness. I believe it really went a long way in helping many of them make some necessary adjustments. It is not too late, neither is it too early to start making plans for the next phase of life. In fact, whether you like it or not, today’s actions and decisions are indicators of where you intend to be tomorrow.
It is very important to be projective in our thoughts, a habit that many of us fail to cultivate while within the four walls of the University or Polytechnic. The earlier we realize that life does not end in school, the better we position ourselves for future relevance. Real life begins after school, ask me and I will gladly share some experience with you.
I implore you to note these things, imbibe them and take up your life, it is your responsibility to make the best out of it. Let the One who made you find something worthwhile to release His favor on.
Let me drop my pen here because of time and space…Best wishes
I am ~Adeniran Bamisaye
Published by Adeniran Bamisaye