"Death is the dark backing that a mirror needs if we are able to see anything." ~ Saul Bellow in Humboldt's Gift.

Often it is when we are confronted with death; the death of a loved one or our own looming death that we begin, finally to consider what is really important.

What really counts in our lives?

It's not about being intelligent, wealthy, famous, right or wrong.

It's not about having nice things.

People don't remember you for that.

They remember your kindness, your smile, how you helped them out, how easily you forgive, how quickly you move on away from things not meant for you. Your dignity.

No one will remember your stuff. Your ego or pride.

They will remember your courage, strength, love, the way you listen and your love and support, the way you made them laugh.

They way you help when they are down.

The time you said you were sorry.

The time you showed up with flowers.

Fishing with the kids.

When you are gone the things you have collected in this lifetime will not matter.

People will remember the love you gave.