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“IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO LIVE WITHOUT FAILING AT SOMETHING, UNLESS YOU LIVED SO CAUTIOUSLY THAT YOU MIGHT AS WELL NOT HAVE LIVED AT ALL, IN WHICH CASE YOU HAVE FAILED BY DEFAULT.” – J.K. ROWLING
Can we just take a moment to acknowledge that it is actually 2017!!!!?!? Since you can’t type numbers in all caps, boldfacing it will have to do because… oi… this deserves some emphasis.
Of course, a new year typically brings about new year’s resolutions – aka things I normally tell myself I’m going to do for the next 12 months but before I know it, it’s the next year and I’m surrounded by mismatched socks, watching reruns of Law and Order: SVU, and haven’t even started a single thing on that list.
But, since that whole “new year, new me” thing really doesn’t work for me past like the first week of January, I wanted to try something different this year.
For 2017, I don’t have resolutions, I have daily goals.
See, the word “resolution” has always seemed sort of daunting to me. New year’s resolutions are made out to seem like the ultimate feat of human existence. The proper definition of “resolution” is “a firm decision to do or not do something” (cheers Google). That’s a LOT of pressure to put of yourself. I mean… you’re human ffs.
For example, let’s say in a moment of sheer enthusiasm and optimism due to the excitement of the ball dropping at midnight – and possibly that last cheeky glass of champagne – you make this classic statement:
“This year, I’m going to eat healthier!”
Then, a few days later, you’re elbows deep in a tub of leftover Christmas cookies…
After that, you start down the endless road of I’ll start tomorrows and, eventually, you decide to just finish this year out and start fresh next year.
The idea of a resolution, an absolute decision that simply MUST be done every single day otherwise it’s useless, well…. that’s just not something that sounds fair does it?
We are humans, failure is a natural part of life. And that’s okay. One of the greatest writers of our time, J.K. Rowling (bless her, what a legend amirite?), put it perfectly when she said, “It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.” She’s right.
Failure means you tried something that maybe you weren’t completely ready for, but when are we every truly 100% ready for anything? Anyway, it means you tried. So it didn’t go how you planned, well that’s alright. You can’t plan for everything in life, and if you could it would be welllll boring. The twists and turns in life are what keep it exciting. It can be scary, believe me I understand that very well at my current point in life; but, I think it’s okay to be scared sometimes because it means you care deeply about whatever it is that’s making your nerves flare up.
Even though it seems like it sometimes, failure isn’t like the ridiculous idea of resolutions… it’s not absolute, you can almost always turn it around. But, it is necessary. Failure is one of life’s greatest teachers.
Now, if you’ve been here long enough – or stalked me on social media, it’s okay there’s no shame in that game – you know that this is about the point in my posts where I go full-blown hippy…
If things don’t go the way you wanted, it’s because the alignment of the universe had different plans and whatever this thing is that has gone a bit off the track is meant to serve another purpose in your life. I mean, if good ol’ Ben Franklin hadn’t failed a stupid amount of times to create a practical lightbulb, he never would have gained all of the knowledge that ultimately led him to success. So, all of those times he reckoned he was about to make history, the universe was like, “Nah, sorry Benny, you’ve got a lesson to learn here mate.” And he did, he learned, grew, and was able to truly appreciate success when it came about.
So, instead of deciding to be a completely different person right at the start of 2017, give yourself a break and leave some room for failure. By setting smaller goals each day, you will gradually lead yourself to being a better version of yourself by the end of the year. Instead of saying you’ll lose “x” amount of weight, say you’ll eat one at least 3 servings of veg or 1 less sweet each day. Instead of saying, “I’m going to be more organised,” say you’ll sort through one desk drawer on Monday and another on Wednesday. Break up your goals into smaller, more manageable ones.
One of the biggest reasons I never get to anything on my list is because all of the items on it are sooo MASSIVE. Like, as if I am going to suddenly become the best #minimalist on the planet on day one of January. I mean, mate. Come on.
So instead, I’ve decided to get rid of three things each day that I don’t really use or need. That’s MUCH more manageable. Still, some days time gets away from me and I don’t do this, and that’s okay. That’s what is great about viewing things as goals instead of absolutions/resolutions, it’s okay if it doesn’t work out every day. That’s one of the main goals I think everyone should set to work on each day this year: accept failure and keep trying.
If you’d like to know some more of the daily goals I’ve set to make 2017 a year of true change, let me know by liking this article! I want to know what you’re hoping this year brings about for you and what manageable goals you’re thinking of trying out, so please do leave a comment!
You’ve got this… 2017 will be your year, even if it’s not exactly what you’re expecting.
Be open to change.
Happy New Year xxx
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