Have you ever come across a person who had a hard time making conversation? Or how about a person who was better at email and text communication than in-person communication?
Did that socially unconscious person happen to be you?
Well I have good news for you my friend - I'm here to help you. Here are a few tips to develop social skills in a nonsocial society:
1. Obtain People Skills
Yes I know this sounds simple enough, but believe it or not, our society has been programmed to communicate solely via technology (cell phone, computer, internet, etc.). The common and simple way of communication, like going up to a person and starting a conversation, is simply foreign to most teenagers and young adults.
If you plan on becoming successful in life, starting your own business, or working abroad, you need to obtain people skills.
If you have a problem or fear of public speaking, try one-on-one communication first. Practice introducing yourself to people often. Introducing yourself to someone you've never met before breaks down that initial wall of fear, and you will develop a more natural way of talking to people. Practice making small talk, and you will become more comfortable and confident at starting and holding conversations with different types of people.
Another great tip to get you out of that introverted bubble is to join a small group, team or club. When you join a group and learn how to effectively communicate and socialize within that group, you will become more comfortable and natural around larger groups of people.
If you need advice on how to work in a small group, check out the article, How to Work in a Small Group.
2. Try New Things
Break out of your shell and go out and do something you've never done before.
If you are someone who is use to order, try a spontaneous road trip, or go out on an unplanned adventure.
What you will experience is an excitement that can only be experienced when you do something new and daring for the first time.
Travel often if you are able to, and if you don't have the funds to do so, plan activities to explore with friends within your own community.
3. Get to Know People Face-to-Face at Work and in School
Getting to know people face-to-face is always good practice.
If you work in a larger corporation, you will notice that emails and over-the-phone conversations are the norm. Try visiting the departments you communicate with often, and meet those people face-to-face. By doing this, you will develop better relationships with your coworkers, thus making your job much easier.
At school, get to know your professors and teachers better by visiting them on their office hours.
You will get the help and support you need and your teacher or professor will be able to put a face to a name during grading time.
4. Execute the Unfamiliar
Practice makes perfect!
Trying new things will always be awkward at first, so don't let that discourage you.
The more you practice and execute the unfamiliar, the more effortless and natural it will become for you.
5. Visit and Learn about other Cultures
The more you learn about other cultures, races and backgrounds, the more you learn about the way people think, act and express themselves. Learning about other cultures broadens your perspective on life. The more you learn, the more you stand out!
Hope these tips help you come out of your awkward shell. If you felt this article was helpful, like, comment and share!
Thanks for reading.
Published by Crystal Ngumezi