Getting angry is actually punishing yourself with the mistakes of others.

On the weekend, a disturbing photo popped into one of the What’s app group am in. Sorry I cannot share it in here. ‘A Kenyatta University student’s body was found along the road somewhere in Nairobi, laying 100 cm away from it’s head. Source said, it was an act’Love and Relationship issues’. The boy slept with another boy’s girlfriend. I asked myself so many questions. What kind of anger drove a human being to this act? What kind of love is this? What kind of demon or evil spirit walk among us? Popping into student’s mind? It hasn’t been the first story in Universities. All because of L.O.V.E. 

I don’t want to go in deep with this story but what I want to talk about ANGER. 

When we were little kids we used to write with pencils. It was a sign that told us that our mistakes could be corrected. As we grew older we received permanent markers to use. This is because we were expected to take responsibility of not making irreversible mistakes. 

Anger may be an emotion that we cannot evade, but the truth is that life is much more beautiful when we learn to succumb it. I have always been a short-tempered person. I’ve tried various things to control this but I need to try harder. I have friends who I have never seen mad or angry. Were they born like that or it’s because they know how to hide their problems and issues? I don’t know. 

I believe we cannot control the feelings, the emotions or the temptations but we can definitely control our actions. Anger is something we cannot control, what we do when are angry is something that we definitely can control.

These days when I get really upset, I choose not to say anything. I retire to my room for a couple of minutes, listen to music, cry my heart out or distract myself. I let myself feel the emotions but I don’t let myself react. I fold my hands and control my tongue because if I cannot control anger, I will control myself at least.

Read this carefully and understand. 

When I look back to the incident of the University Student, I feel like a lot could have been different if the person who murdered him would have succumbed his emotions. Firstly, I know being cheated on sucks but the girl could easily be replaced. Second, they were not married, they were only in University; maybe they were not meant to be together and lastly, how many men will he kill because no one is perfect when it comes to love. I know we all have different boiling points but its no reason to take away someone life in an ungodly way. 

This thing called ‘LOVE’ runs the world, it makes life worth living but also ruins lives. Be careful my sisters and brothers out there. Love yourself more not to allow yourself to pay for someone else’s mistakes

So I ask you, the next time you get angry, don’t try to control the anger; instead try to control yourself. With a little practice, it becomes a part of your life and you become a person who never lets anger ruin a valued relationship or ruin your life.