In the Book of Proverbs Chapter 31, a truly excellent woman is described as one who “opens her mouth in wisdom and the law of kindness is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26
She is a woman of wisdom who chooses her words wisely. This woman has something of value to say when she opens her mouth. This verse is also a great reminder to us that we need to watch what we say! The words we say and how we say those things can have a lasting impact on our marriage, our children, our friends, our neighbors, and our co-workers. Harsh words, critical tone of voice, impatience, sarcasm, gossip, complaining, grumbling, yelling… there are so many ways we can hurt others with our words. “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” Proverbs 12:18
Why is wisdom so important? It is the way to live with skill, like an accomplished craftsman who creates something of lasting value. The Book of Proverbs gives explicit counsel about how life should be lived for our own good, as well as that of others. We need wisdom to live godly in today’s culture, too make godly choices for life situations.
God makes wisdom available to any one who asks in faith and does not doubt. When you ask, expect an answer. “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:5
In Proverbs Chapter 2, we are instructed to accept wisdom and apply our hearts to under understanding.
“My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding—indeed, if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding, and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.” Proverbs 2:1-5
Abigail was a such a woman. A woman of wisdom, courage and action. The Bible says Abigail is as “a woman of good understanding, and of a beautiful countenance.” She had brains as well as beauty. Her story is found in the Old Testament Book of I Samuel. Abigail was a woman faced with many challenges. She had the misfortune of being married to a man named Nabal who was mean and dishonest. He was also a drunken wretch, as well as being unmanageable and stubborn and ill-tempered, yet Abigail handled the situation in a godly manner, showing us that God protects those who trust Him. David (through his servants) asked Nabal to provide some necessary sustenance for him and his men but Nabal refused (1 Samuel 25:8-11). Abigail’s encounter with the future King of Israel changed her destiny.
One of David’s servants told Abigail about the insults that had been hurled at his fellow servants by Nabal (1 Samuel 25:14) even though David’s men had protected Nabal’s men and sheep from outside forces (1 Samuel 25:15-16). As soon as Abigail heard of her husband’s insulting behavior toward David, she began to make preparations to make up for his foolish actions.
Without telling her husband of her plan (1 Samuel 25:19), she and her servants prepared a large amount of food and drink and traveled to where David and his men were camped (1 Samuel 25:18-20). Abigail prevented disaster regarding herself and her family by humbling herself before David (1 Samuel 25:23-31).
We can learn from Abigail’s example as she demonstrated acts of godliness, wisdom, courage and faithfulness in a difficult situation. She rose above her fears, took charge and protected her family.
We can thank God for giving us stories like Abigail’s. Abigail was certainly a woman of integrity and destiny along with many other women we read about in the Bible who God used in extraordinary ways – Esther, Deborah, Hannah, Mary, to name just a few. Let her story encourage you to put your trust in the Lord, no matter what challenges you are facing today.
We see how important and vital wisdom is in our daily walk with the Lord. A wise woman is far from boring–she is a woman of substance. A woman everyone wants to know. A woman who’s easy to love and impossible to forget.
Today be mindful of the words you say.
Our mouths can be a powerful tool of encouragement or a weapon of destruction.
Published by Dr. A. Francine Green