What do you do to make yourself look great? What simple tips and tricks do you use to make yourself gorgeously stylish? How much time do you spend thinking about your clothes?

Have we become obsessed with making ourselves over? Some people spend thousands of dollars on optional procedures to make themselves look more attractive: face, eye and chin lifts, tummy tucks, breast implants and liposuction to melt the fat away, all because they want to achieve a certain look.

Many spend thousands of dollars each year buying expensive clothes, expensive shoes and expensive jewelry. Why? We do so in order to look good; in order to feel good; and sometimes in order to impress other people.

There may be nothing inherently wrong with this, but Peter tells us, “do not depend on flashy clothes, fine jewelry and eye-catching lifestyles to make yourself beautiful.”  Be proud of who God made you to be. You do not need appearance enhancing products, procedures and the things of this world to impress other people. Why? Because true beauty comes from within. There is nothing wrong with working on our outward beauty in itself. We are daughters of the King so why not look the part? We should always do our best and look our best but many times we forget about the inside and the way we project ourselves outwardly. The Bible tells us as women that our beauty should not be based on outward appearance:

“Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, your beauty should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great worth. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful” 1 Peter 3:3-5

Peter is not saying we shouldn’t be beautiful, but what he’s saying is we need to redefine our idea of what is beautiful. How did these holy women make themselves beautiful? They trusted in God; and, as a result, they developed an inner beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.

The Apostle Paul says in 2 Corinthians that that which is visible is temporal or worldly. It does not last. “So,” Paul says, “put your focus on the things that cannot be seen, that are eternal.” Those are the things that last forever.

“…while we do not look at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. For the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal.” 2 Corinthians 4:18

God’s Word helps us to see beauty from God’s perspective.  What specifically does it mean to have a gentle spirit?

When we think of a woman who is gentle, we tend to envision someone who is seen and not heard. A gentle spirit in the original language is meek. A meek spirit, a gentle spirit, a quiet spirit. Scripture says for a woman to have that internal heart attitude of meekness or gentleness and a quiet spirit gives her a beauty that is imperishable. It’s a beauty that cannot fade away. It’s a beauty that you don’t have to go through all kinds of cosmetic surgery or makeup routines to preserve. It’s something that gets sweeter and richer and more beautiful as you age.

A woman who is gentle understands at the deepest level that God is in control. She doesn’t have to be anxious about her circumstances because she knows He defends, protects and loves her.

This word “gentle” occurs in other places in the New Testament. In Matthew 11, Jesus says we can come to Him and find rest because He is “gentle and lowly in heart.” Again, He reminds us that He is God and we are not. We can fully trust Him to handle our fears, our burdens and our fatigue. “Take My yoke upon you, and learn from Me. For I am meek and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." Matthew 11:29  In Galatians 5:2,  gentleness is a fruit of the Spirit, reminding us that gentleness characterizes both godly men and godly women. Gentleness, also translated “meekness,” does not mean weakness. Gentleness means trusting God for the things in life that can lead to fear, including the fear that comes with comparison. When our outward appearance—whether physical beauty or social behaviors—begins to consume our thoughts, we are trusting in ourselves to produce attraction, friendship, respect and approval. But, in God’s sight, the woman who trusts Him fully and rests in Him is precious.

If you want to become this woman of virtue, develop a sense of the fear of the Lord. You can’t develop that apart from spending time with God in His Word. His Word will help you to develop that reverence for Him that awe for Him that trust in Him and that hatred of evil. And then everything about your life will be ordered around that consciousness of God’s presence.

I encourage you to meditate on God’s goodness each day. Worship Him for who He is and remind yourself continually that He controls all things. Ask Him to give you a discerning heart to understand when you are falling into distrust and fear. He is faithful to turn our hearts toward Him and remind us of truth.

Be Abundantly Blessed!



Published by Dr. A. Francine Green

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