Have you ever seen a successful person and admired them or their success? Did you stop to contemplate the failures they had gone through before achieving success? Perhaps you didn’t. The truth, however, is that success comes after failure. Failure can be frustrating, but it’s from failure that we learn valuable life lessons. Let’s discuss 10 reasons why you fail in life and what you can do about it.


1.Disregarding Past Mistakes


While we are supposed to learn from past mistakes, some people hardly learn from their mistakes. A wise person is one who learns from his or her mistakes. One way of doing so is by understanding the root of the problem, evaluating the entire situation, and outlining what you purpose on achieving. Scrutinize the strategy you used and establish the reasons why it didn’t work according to your plan in the first place. 


Hold Conversations with Yourself


You may want to hold conversations with yourself to understand whether you’re viewing the existing problem or mistakes from the correct perspective. For instance, assuming you’re stuck in debt, you may want to find out how you got there in the first place. Think about what you can do to raise your revenue. Analyze your expenses and cut down what’s not essential. Whatever you do, learn from your previous mistakes. 


2. Procrastination


Often, procrastination happens to you when you’re afraid to make the first step. Remember, one thing that differentiates successful people from the not so successful ones is their ability to overcome procrastination. It’s worth noting that the power to overcome procrastination is a work in process. It doesn’t happen overnight, and you need to work on your confidence and self-worth first to be able to beat procrastination. Successful have managed to be proactive. They don’t postpone what needs doing and this has come in handy to help them maintain productivity always. Success loves speed.


What Triggers Procrastination?


If you’ve ever found yourself entangled in the procrastination vice you understand the two challenges involved. These are the inability to get started. You probably procrastinate for hours, days, and even months because you are afraid that you’ll fail. The other challenge is the inability to progress once you faced with problems. These challenges may force you to procrastinate rather than establish workable solutions. 


How to Overcome Procrastination


Overcoming procrastination begins with acknowledging the fact that you’re a procrastinator. Seeing that procrastination affects productivity, you need to lay down concrete strategies towards overcoming it. For instance, you could task someone with keeping a tab on you to ensure that you’ve accomplished everything on your to-do list each week. Focus on getting the work done regardless of the challenges involved and reduce distractions. We all know that distractions such as social media and the television can hinder you from doing what needs doing. Focus on the task on hand first and promise yourself a reward at the end of the job. Within no time and with stringent discipline, you’re guaranteed to recover from procrastinating.


3. Lack of Humility


The digital space has continued to evolve over the years and with many people today use social media platforms for various reasons. You probably have met people who think they have it all in the right place, albeit achieving very little. Lack of humility is a perfect recipe for failure. When you lack humility, hardly do you ever listen to corrections even when you know you’re on the wrong.


Soon, people start realizing your know it all attitude and stop advising you. Within no time and by consistently refusing to take heed, you end up making huge mistakes. These may result in your failure. Regardless of the magnitude of success you’ve achieved, maintaining humility is critical if you want to keep your level of success.


How to Maintain Humility


Humility will take you to greater heights than you’ve never imagined. However, maintaining humility can be an arduous task for some people. There are many things you can do to remain humble regardless of your successes such as: asking for feedback, enhancing your listening skills, accepting mistakes and accepting to be corrected, and confronting your intolerance.


4. Not Believing in yourself


Are successful people more talented or intelligent compared to unsuccessful ones? The answer to this question is a resounding no. Many of the successful people you encounter are confident. They believe in their abilities and are willing to use them to get what they want. Successful people convinced that their goals are achievable and that there’s a solution for every challenge they could be facing. Believing in yourself helps you grab opportunities and accept challenges that would have otherwise been too difficult for them. In general, they give their all and strive to achieve every goal they’ve set out. 


What Unsuccessful People do


The opposite is true for unsuccessful people. They are always seeking for reasons why things aren’t working according to their plans. Unsuccessful people will blame everybody but themselves for their failure. While successful people are determined to find solutions, unsuccessful people will be looking for excuses, and this is what sets them apart from successful people. Learning how to believe in yourself is not only important, but it pushes you to do what needs doing. By believing in yourself, you leave no room for giving up. You’ll spend all your energy until you can establish a tangible solution. 


5. Wanting Instant Results


Many people want to achieve instant success. We all know that this isn’t possible. When they finally realize that they can’t start climbing a tree from the branches, they’re likely to give up. Of course, this will cause frustrations, discouragement, and lack of confidence. Everybody should dream big and aim for higher results. However, it’s what you do to achieve your goals that determines whether or not you’ll make them in the first place. You may want to first change your attitude towards achieving success. 


Factors Contributing to Success


Remember, some factors contribute to success, such as dedication, determination, patience, and effort. Ask yourself whether you’re ready to face these factors in the quest to achieve your goals. As you shoot for the stars, have a concrete strategy in place to help you get there. It’s worth noting that you can’t get instant results. However, you can divide your goals into minor milestones and work out a plan on how you plan to achieve them. Don’t be discouraged if they don’t work according to plan, with determination you are guaranteed to achieve your goals. 


6. Failure to Plan


Failure to plan is planning to fail.  Having a plan is a critical factor in achieving your goals. By failing to plan, you’re in no doubt planning to fail. You don’t need a perfect plan for you to achieve success. The fact that you have a plan in the first place is all that matters. Without a plan, you can’t necessarily figure out the direction you are taking towards achieving your goals. According to research business, people who have a business plan are less likely to fail than those without a plan at all.


Create measurable, attainable, and time-specific plans. Have detailed plans indicating what you need to do and where you want to go next. Write down details explaining how you plan to tackle any challenges that arise. You may also want to adjust and update your plans accordingly when the need arises.


7. Making Excuses


The chances are that you’ve met people who always have excuses for not achieving something. People who like we’ve mentioned above blame everybody and everything but themselves. If you can’t own up to your mistakes and work towards finding tangible solutions, no doubt you’re going to fail miserably.


A successful person has no time for making excuses. They are aware that excuses aren’t part of their plans and goals. If you want to be successful, you want to defeat the temptation to find an excuse. Be responsible for your actions and make corrections where they are due. 


8. Refusal to take responsibility


Some people don’t want to be accountable whatsoever. Failure to take responsibility is a significant factor that can result in your inability. When you aren’t responsible, you have no control over your actions. Did you know that you can’t find solutions to your problems if you’ve no control? Take responsibility today, and take control of your life. Remember, nobody can be responsible for your life but yourself.


How to be Responsible


Being responsible plays a significant role in helping you succeed in your plans. If you want to be successful, start by taking control of your thoughts, actions, feelings, and words. Understand that only you can control how these things occur deep inside you. Stop complaining and rather be proactive. Find solutions rather than waiting for somebody to find answers on your behalf. Refrain from blaming others and making excuses, don’t take things personally, and finally decide to be happy.  


9. Hesitating to Swim Against the Current


Given a chance, would you swim against or with the flow? Many people would choose the latter. But did you know that swimming against the current leads you where few people have been? Swimming with the tide leads you where everyone is or has been and will give you the same results. You’re bound to face many more challenges by swimming against the flow, but eventually, you’ll enjoy the fruits of your labor.


There are more significant rewards in place for you if you choose to swim against the current. Not only do you discover new things but you also make significant strides in your life. Do you realize that some of the people who chose to go against the current have given the world new technology and advanced infrastructure? Choose the less-traveled paths, and you’ll conquer significant milestones. 


10. Low Self Worth


Low self-worth is a primary reason you are not financially successful in life.  Lack of self-worth is closely related to failure to believe in yourself. Many people with low self-worth will be afraid of taking the first step towards achieving their goals. They’re so scared of failing.  Low self-worth can result from various reasons such as an unhappy childhood, a troubled relationship. Poor academic performance, or general stresses in life. Often, women are affected by self-worth related problems, especially those who’ve been abandoned. 


How to Improve Your Self Worth


There are various ways of salvaging your confidence primarily if the lack of it is affecting your productivity. You may want to visit a counselor who can guide you and mentor you through until you get back on your feet. Failure isn’t there to punish you. Instead, you can leverage the inability to learn, to continue and pursue your goals, and strive to achieve them regardless of the challenges you face. 


Offer Value to Feel Valuable


One of the best ways of enhancing your self-worthiness is by offering others value. Show kindness to others and yourself as well. Serve others without expecting anything in return. You want to be intentional and focused on serving others, and so in return, you’ll get what you wish in life.  Helping others and giving them value will prepare a way for you to receive back from the universe.  This is because the universe has a way of filling it on your behalf “give and you shall receive”!


If you’re a giver, you’ve probably noticed the satisfaction you derive from giving. Not only do you feel good, but you also make you and the people around you happy. Eventually, the person you’re giving will be happier and this will enhance your self-worth. 



According to studies conducted on 2,000 people within five years, happy people are those who volunteered an average of 5.8 hours every month to serve others. Serving other people and adding value in their lives made the studied people happier. 


Be Accountable

You can enhance your self worth by being accountable. Accountability enables you to control your life and everything that happens with it. By being responsible, you have less time to find excuses, blame others, feel ashamed, or even seek justification. Instead, you take responsibility for all your challenges and seek solutions to your existing problems. 




Failure is inevitable in life, but it shouldn’t limit you from succeeding. Rather than having the above reasons hold you down, seek to conquer them and strive to succeed in achieving your goals. 




1. What do you do when you faced one of the ten categories mentioned above?


You can use emotional freedom techniques (EFT) to fix it.  EFT is a technique to tap on some meridian points on your body particularly your face to reprogram the subconscious mind. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) is an intervention counseling concept that provides healing from emotional and physical disease and pain. No needles are involved, as is the case with ordinary acupuncture. This method utilizes fingertips to tap bodily energy points. 


1a. Do you want to execute emotional freedom techniques (EFT) on your own? This YouTube video will come in handy.



3. Hold no barrel conversations with yourself.  Be brutally honest with yourself can be the start of something meaningful in your life.


4. Document your thoughts in a journal and check them every night. If you identify any self-critical points, don’t hesitate to strike them out.


5. Make someone accountable for you.  They could be your friends or family members, but you need to choose people who have your best interests at heart. 


6. Seek divine intervention by praying and asking for assistance.


7. Seek professional help.  This website can help you get rid of these limiting beliefs. https://healbeyondbelief.com by Kara Lange. She can do it in one session usually. However, there can be more than one limited belief you hold, and you may need more than one sessions. 



Published by Kim Nguyen