…and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together let no man separate. - Mark 10:8-9 

In June, my husband celebrated his 34th birthday. Being the doting wife that I’d like to think that I am, no matter what birthday is coming, I want to make a big deal of another year that my husband has been alive. This year I decided to hold a birthday brunch. I had invited many friends and family, including my niece and nephew from Austin. As excited as I was about the brunch, I was more ready for going out to dinner because it would be just the 6 of us; Me, Brian, our sister in law, his brother, and our niece and nephew.

I went inside the restaurant first; Brian was the last to get out of the bus.

My 2 year old niece Gwynn was the first person I laid my eyes on once I got inside the restaurant. I couldn’t wait to see her and talk to her. Almost the very moment I approached the table, she quickly put a card right in front of me. She looked like she had waited HOURS to give me the card.

There was just one problem.

“Hapy Birdday Aunt sheeye Uncle Bian”

The card wasn’t for me.

I smiled politely and told her thank you but that it was only Uncle Brian’s birthday, so he should be the one that gets the card. She looked a little confused as she hid the card again, she couldn’t understand that even though Aunt Shelley and Uncle Brian are always together whenever we talk on Skype, we aren’t the same person therefore, we don’t share the same birthday.

Once Uncle Brian finally got to the table, she once again put the card on the table and said “Hapy Birdday Aunt Sheeye Uncle Bian”

I love my niece. Even at the age of 2, she gave me a precious reminder about what marriage ought to look like when done God’s way.   

When my niece sees one, she knows that the other one isn’t too far away, or if the other one is far away, as we have been lately due to surgeries and rehab from those said surgeries, she knows that it won’t be long before we will be back together again.  The best thing about her little reminder is this: she knows that when Uncle Brian and Aunt Shelley are together, things are the way it is supposed to be.

This is what marriage done God’s way should look like.

Not that our marriage is perfect……far from it in fact, but it is through our tough times that we go through individually and as a couple that make us stronger. When Brian and I got married, we promised each other that we would stay with each other through the good and the bad, the times of want and plenty, and till death do us part.  

My prayer for you if you are in that time of waiting for the one that God specifically picked out for you, is that you will understand that this “one” does not and will not make you complete. Only God does that. My prayer is that even though this “one” doesn’t complete you, this “one” will love you with a love that is so strong words just can’t do justice. I pray that you will be completely confident that you can get through the good and bad times, through the times of plenty and in the times of want, and till death do you part. This is the love that Jesus gives to us. I pray that this “one” will be Jesus to you, and I pray that you will be Jesus to this “one.”

To you who have found this “one”, I pray that you do not forget that you are in a marriage that God Himself ordained. Not to make you happy, but that you will glorify Him all the days of your marriage. I pray that you will always remember the vows that you spoke to each other on your wedding day. They aren’t just sweet words that sound good or romantic, they are promises that you made to your spouse and to God. I pray that whether you are in good times or bad, sickness or health, in want or in plenty; that wherever you go, if you are together and not torn apart by anything of this temporary world, things are the way it is supposed to be.   

Not bad for a 2 year old.

Don’t forget that He loves you and so do I,

Shelley Olsen 

Published by Shelley Olsen