Happy Birthday to me! Today is my 24th Birthday. I’ll be telling a lie to say that celebrating my birthday isn’t my favorite celebration to celebrate. Parties, trips, cupcakes, gifts, and a reason to slay. Today I’m going to reflect and use this time to be grateful and to look back on all the things that I’ve learned.

  1. Don’t waste time on people who don’t give a rat’s ass about me. Cut those kinds of people out of your life. They aren’t worth any of your precious time especially if they won’t change.
  2. Appreciate the good people you have around you. If you have really good people around you that’s always looking out for you and appreciates you, hold on to them and love them for as long as you can.
  3. Save your money for experiences not things. Coming for a makeup junkie that loves buying new makeup every week. I know, but I do make sure I can save for experiences like my summer vacations etc. it’s totally worth it. 
  4. Value education. It breaks my heart going on social media and seeing people who can’t read or write. This 2016 no excuse why you shouldn’t know certain things or how to articulate yourself. Not saying you need to have a college degree but you should know how to talk, read and write correctly.
  5. Created your own opportunities. No one is ever going to hand you what you want. If you want it go get it. There are no excuses. Yes it’s a lot harder and might even be scary but if you really want it bad enough you’ll make it happen for yourself.
  6. Embrace your body. There’s nothing wrong with the way you look. Love your body and don’t compare you body to someone else. That person probably doesn’t even like the way they look.
  7. Celebrate your success. No one is going to clap for you. Clap for yourself. You been through enough shit it’s okay to brag and be happy.
  8. You can be selfish. It’s okay to take time out for yourself. And you can do things that makes you happy.
  9. Like Nike, just do it. If you really want to do something just do it. Don’t be afraid. That youtube channel you always wanted to do, go ahead and get started.
  10. The best thing to say is nothing. I wish more people learned this It’s okay to shut up, not everything needs a respond. It’s easier said than done I know because I be ready to clap back for every thing!
  11. Ask for help. I had to learn to swallow my pride and ask for help when I was stuck and that’s okay. You don’t have to go through it alone.
  12. I can change my mind and change it again. Since I was a little girl I’ve changed my mind over 1000 times. And since then I’ve changed it 2000 more times. Nothing is set in stone. It’s okay to want to explore and try different interests. This is the time to do it. I’m only 24. No way should I have my whole like figured out. 
  13. Conquer your fears. Everyday I’m faced with something that makes me nervous. Like seriously promoting myself as a makeup artist/blogger. What if people don’t like my work or think it’s not good enough. I’m continuously trying to over some these fears.
  14. You’re going to lose friends not everyone is meant to stay in our life forever. I learned it’s better to have a small group of friends than a big group.
  15. Stop looking back. I can't change the past. Whatever happened happened already. All I can do is re write the future. Take what I messed up in the past and learn from those mistakes. Don’t look for where you been look for where you can go. My past has prepared me for my future.
  16. Don’t settle. A job, relationship, career. I deserve the very best!
  17. Be grateful for what you have. I can lose everything I have in a split second. Appreciate the good, bad and ugly. Someone probably has it worst than you do.
  18. Don’t worry too much. If it’s meant to be it will happen. No need to stress over something I have no control over.
  19. Don’t let others dictate your life. I have to live my own life. This isn’t my parent, siblings, cousins, or friends. It’s MINE. For so long I allowed others to tell me what I should and shouldn’t do because of they’re own fears or just not believing in me. That’s their problem, not mine.
  20. Forgive yourself and others. I spent so much of my time being angry with other people. I’ve also made some pretty bad decisions. But that’s okay because each of those mistakes and bad decisions turned out to be lessons learned. I learned to not do it again rather than dwelling on it. Easier said that done.
  21. Learn from relationships. Intimate and friendships. Not allowing people to make me into someone I’m not. Be true to my self.
  22. Don’t care about what others think. Easier said than done. Caring about others opinion on me definitely held me back from doing what I wanted to do. I don’t need anyone’s approval in this life.
  23. Stop comparing myself to others. It’s a never ending cycle and it doesn’t even make me happy
  24. Set boundaries. People really be trying me BUT I have to always let them know not to cross that line. Don’t be taken advantage of. Make sure it’s clear so it don’t happen.
  25. Confidence is amazing. I never understood how people could stand there and not be ashamed of the way they looked and hold their head up high with pride about their selves. It baffled me, Self love, confidence and acceptance works wonders. I learned to embrace my flaws and accept myself. *Extra one because I HAD to add this one in.*