Guys, there is totally such a thing as too much diet. But, it’s making me healthy, how can that be bad? Great question.The first step is recognizing if you have taken things a bit too far. Check in with yourself. Are you stressed by your eating habits or grateful for your health? If you’ve gotten to the point of being stressed, maybe it’s time to ease up a bit. This is a marathon, not a sprint. You have the rest of your life to continue making tweaks and adjustments.

The Judgment Zone.

Ask yourself if you find yourself resentful and/or tired all the time again even though you know you are eating all the right things. This can be a sign of overdoing your diet. When you are focused all day long on every single thing you are putting in your mouth, it’s exhausting. When you fear that you may have made a mistake or inadvertently ingested something you shouldn’t have it can be exhausting. This fear and judgment can become all consuming and the next thing you know you are only living to prepare, eat, or avoid food all day long. That’s no way to live.

So, Where Do You Find the Balance?

It’s going to be a system of trial and error. You have to learn what works for you and what doesn’t. I know that I have to be ridiculously strict for at least the first month or I will sabotage my efforts every time. That’s why the 28-day cleanse from the Medical Medium was such a blessing. Perhaps it works better for you if you remain strict for 6 out of 7 days and allow yourself grace on the 7th day? Perhaps you need even more discipline and have to stay focused for 2-4 months. Maybe even longer. No matter how long it takes, or how many ‘cheat’ days you have to give yourself, as long as it doesn’t become all consuming and you are still enjoying life, keep at it!

Reframe Your Thoughts.

When you get to that point though, that it just feels like too much and you are ready to give up or you find yourself in constant guilt over the foods that you eat in a moment of “weakness” it’s time to reframe your thoughts.”Weakness” is a thought pattern. It isn’t weak to feel low and want comfort. It’s a choice and calling it a weakness places you in a victim frame of mind. I am too weak to say no. No, you aren’t. No one is. It’s just easier to say, “I’m too weak” then it is to own up to the fact that we simply wanted that piece of cake, or slice of cheese or whole pizza – whatever the cheat was.

Where is it Coming From?

The next step is to find out what is driving the desire to eat something that is not in alignment with our health. This is the hard part. It’s bearing witness to some of the deepest, darkest parts of our selves. When you really take a close look you will realize that you are sabotaging your health because you don’t feel worthy, or because you find comfort in playing the role of the victim. Perhaps there is something else at play for you. When I dove deep I found a saboteur that was saying, “If you have MS, you always have an excuse when you don’t live up to your potential.” “Without MS, there is no one to blame but yourself.” Woah. That one fucked with my mind. But, when I sat with it, it was true. I enjoyed playing the victim and having an excuse for not wanting to go out, or for forgetting someone’s birthday.

Rely On Your Tribe.

I highly recommend gathering support around you for this, whether it is through therapy, family, friends, church groups, or whatever tribe you have found. They will be there to remind you of the amazing job you are doing in healing yourself during those times you judge yourself or want to quit. I can’t stress the value of support enough. I have walked the path alone and with support, and I can tell you, I was not successful on my own. Your support may even come from social media. There are some amazing support groups out there for health.

Whether you find yourself being too strict, or too judgmental for not being strict enough, it’s time to ease up. Give yourself some grace. Eat out every once in a while with no regard to how the meal was actually prepared. You can still choose to remain as close to your diet as possible, but every once in a while, give your waiter a break. He probably doesn’t know every little detail about how a meal is prepared and while he would be happy to tell you, maybe, just once, you could let it go. For those of you judging yourself, maybe it’s time to rethink how you approach the diet. Can you make some adjustments that would feel more aligned with your current lifestyle? Can you forgive your past indiscretions and make a commitment to slowly integrate healthy foods into your diet?

Finding Grace

Like all things in life, this is a balancing act. There is no right or wrong, follow what feels helpful to you and avoid what feels harmful. Don’t fear the future. It’s not here yet. Work with what you have at this moment. Know that in this moment you are alive and are doing well. Your body is in a constant state of healing, foods are simply a conduit for it to heal faster or slower. The choice is yours.

Wishing you love, light, and good health.

Originally published at www.eatwhatyouknow.wordpress.com

Published by Melinda Schmitt