Hi Scandi readers.

I know I know. I have been a bad blogger. I’m so sorry. This week has been so stressful. School, celebrating my 22end birthday, doing an assignment and being bad at planning my week resolved in no blog post this Thursday.
 I don’t think I have told you guys what I’m studying. I’m studying English at A level. The bachelor degree that I’m trying to enrol at require that you have studied English at A level. In Denmark, you can spend a month in the summer or 3 months in autumn or spring studying subjects at the level you need to get into university. That is what I have been doing since February. I spent 3 month studying German at B level and now I’m studying English at A level.

Enrolling at university typical leads to moving out of parents’ house. I moved out about a year ago and I have some advice.

1: Save money.

Moving out cost lots and lots of money. I saved some money, and my dad saved money on an account I got access to when I turned 21 years old. So I had quite a lot of money when I moved, but I still needed some financial help from my mum. You’ll need money for furniture, apartment deposit, first month rent, kitchen stuff, maybe paint if you want to paint the walls of your new home, maybe you need to rent a small truck to transport your stuff.

2: Add kitchen stuff on the wish list.

When I moved out, I had the most of the basic kitchen things. I got old pots, cutlery and stuff from my sister, I got some thing for Christmas or my birthday, and I bought things. So when I moved out I only had to buy few things like plates, glasses, cooking utensils etc.

3: Share, or living alone.

You will have to find out if you are the type who can share an apartment with “strangers”. Or if you prefer living by yourself.

 I have shared an apartment with two guys. Then I live in a hall, where I had my own bathroom and bedroom, but I shared the kitchen with 10 other people. Now I’m living by myself.

I’m a neat person. I like my home to me somewhat clean and not too messy. The first place I live there with two guys. Oh boy, I’m surprised by how fine they were with a dirty kitchen and dirty dishtowels. I had my own dishtowels, but I washed theirs dishtowel once and cleaned the kitchen once. Then I had enough of mummying them and do the cleaning. Therefore, I stayed away from the kitchen.
The hall I had the same problem. Dirty kitchen. And having to be forced to act like I wanted to be social. Being forced to put on a smile on bad days didn’t work out for me. I prefer living by myself or people who I have chosen to share an apartment with.

Are you a neat person? Are you okay with people who are a lot more relaxed about having a messy and dirty kitchen? Are you messy? Are you willing to compromise?
I’m not at all a cleaning Nazi. Not even close, but I couldn’t compromise because the mess stressed me out and I didn’t want to mummy people.  

 4: It’s okay to be sad.

It’s okay to be sad about moving out. I remember I was sad the first evening and night. Everything was new. New room, new city I didn’t know, new people around me, new smells, new sounds. Everything was strange and new. So when my family left me the first night I got sad. When I lied in my bed the first night everything became so overwhelming and I couldn’t keep the tears away.

It’s okay to feel sad. Moving out of your parents’ house is a massive change. Remember no matter what happens you’re going to be fine. You are going to get used to your new life  

5: Pay the bills on time.

I remember one of my biggest concerns when I moved out was bills. How to pay them? What if I forget? I didn’t have to worry about that. I’m good at remembering the bills. In Denmark we have ‘Betalingsservice’ translated into Payment Service. Betalingsservice is a direct debit service. It’s equivalent of the American Automated Clearing House or the Birtish Direct Debit Control Centre.

Sign your subscription up of a direct debit service and make sure you don’t spend more money than you have.

 

6: Eat healthy and check the price.

Just because your parent doesn’t cook for you and doesn’t watch what you eat doesn’t mean you should eat a lot of  junk. I lost weight after I moved out because my eating habits are different. I have realized that I’m have gotten cheap. I don’t want to spend money on candy, McDonald, Burger King or junk food in general.

Buy are cookbook or find come recipes online and try to memorize them. Spaghetti Bolognese, stuffed pita, pasta pesto etc. are easy things to cook.

In Denmark healthy buns and bread are expensive in the sense that it’s cheaper to make it yourself. Buns are easy to make. So I have stopped buying bread or buns. I’m making it mysel. Check the price, find an easy recipe, and make it yourself. It might be even healthier if you make it yourself.

In the beginning I hated it, but now I find it more satisfying eating something I have made myself. I actually think it’s weird to eat bought bread or buns. Of course you can’t make everything yourself. But a loaf or a cake are easy to make.

Sometimes the cheaper product taste better than the expensive ones. Keep that in mind.

If you think “ Yes! I can eat junk everyday and my parents wouldn’t be able to complain”. You are not cheating your parents by eating junk every day or every second day. You are the one who will gain weight and end up being up sad about your body. So don't do it. 

These are my advice on moving out of parents' house. I hope you can find something on the list you can use. Next blog is up on Tuesday.

Your Scandi friend.

Published by Amalie Ingvorsen