Can you handle the truth?

I wrote about standing up for what is right and now I am coming forward asking another tough question about who you are and what you believe in...The truth.

Yes, people we are digging deep this week into who you really are. 
There are some people that can't handle the truth. They might ask you for your opinion and yet, they think that theirs is better so then why ask?

I used to be like that. My best friend is gay and when we would go shopping I would ask for his opinion and when he would say he didn't like something I would ask "Why? What's wrong with it? How come?". 

He would get mad and say "Bitch, do you want my opinion or what? I don't like it, that's why".

Well, did I want his opinion? Yes, but on my terms, because I liked it, so why didn't he?
Throughout our friendship, I can always count on him to be brutally honest with me even when I didn't want to hear it and even when it hurts, at least I know where he stands and I know he is honest.

However there are so many people like me, who want advice and yet can't handle the truth. We sometimes can't even see the truth within ourselves. I couldn't admit I had a drinking or drug problem for years even when I was waking up on the floor with vomit all around me, hungover yet again, I still went to work so I was good, no problem.

I couldn't admit my ex was verbally abusive even to myself because that would mean I failed, that I picked the wrong one yet again. I couldn't face the truth for years. I lied to everyone including myself just so I wouldn't have to admit I picked wrong.

When everyone said Mr. Con Artist was just that.... No, I said you’re just haters because I am so happy even though all the signs were there and my intuition was screaming. I couldn't admit the mistake I had made.

We can't handle the truth because of our ego. That would mean we didn't pick right or do the right thing. God forbid we make a mistake and the world sees it! How could we ever redeem ourselves in people's eyes? So we never admit to our failures and in return we never learn the lessons we are supposed to.

When I started writing this blog, I decided that I was going to be brutally honest about everything.
I fall down, I do stupid things, I make mistakes -huge mistakes- and yet the difference now is that I am always trying to learn the lessons from them. I am not afraid of my failures anymore or what people will think because I know I am human and these are the things that make us human and make us stronger.

I can handle the truth now because I know there is a lesson in it and so I put it all out there so that others might see for themselves and know it's alright to fail, to fall down, to pick wrong, to own up to what you did and to not be afraid of the truth.

So today my friends, think about if you can really handle the truth? 

Can you take off the rose colored glasses you see yourself through and stop worrying about what others will think or say? Look at the truth in the face, stand up straight, admit your failure, own it, find the lesson, forgive yourself, let it go and move on....because yes, sometimes the truth hurts but sometimes the truth will set you free!

 

"Be the change you want to see"
  
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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