I believe we're all guilty of this. You may not notice when you do it, and sometimes you have to stop yourself from doing it. Comparing yourself to others can truly give you a negative outlook on the life you're living, and on your confidence.

I probably compare myself to one or two other people every day. Rather it's comparing where they are in their life (as far as achievements,) or how they look on the outside. Their eyebrows may look better than mine, they may have beautiful hair or they may be taking a vacation that I would never be able to afford. Anything I see, I use to compare my life and my looks.

Instagram seems to be my biggest problem when it comes to comparisons. Why? Because it's nothing but photos. This is the time when I really start to question my beauty. If I upload a selfie on Instagram, I'll get about 30 likes; but if another beautiful young lady uploads a selfie, she'll get about 100 likes in 2 minutes. Noticing this, I start to wonder and question: "How does she take her selfies?!" "What make up does she use?!" "How did she get so many people to follow her?!" Also, Instagram is filled with models, celebrities, and make-up artist. So much beauty in one day, and yet, I really hate seeing it sometimes.

Now when it comes to Facebook, I usually find myself comparing my life and achievements to others. Most of my friends and family members (around my age) are in college, close to receiving their degrees, starting a family, and about to start their dream careers. Others are  traveling the world and seeing things I only dream of seeing one day. Some even are making so much money, I wonder where they're working?! I sit back and scroll through a countless amount of post of people "bragging" about where they are in their lives and what they are doing thus far.

Now here's the catch: When I find myself comparing things, I usually end up in a sad state of being. I start to question the choices I've made and the actions I've taken to "better" my life. After about 20 minutes of overthinking and beating myself up, I finally snap out of the "comparison zone."

I should be thankful for everything that has happened in my life. I've gain so much knowledge through my experiences and have done and seen things that some people will NEVER get the chance to see, do, and enjoy. I'm beautiful in my own special way; besides, God made me this way. I wasn't supposed to look like everyone else! Self-confidence is a very important feature and without it you will always compare yourself to others.

Wake up in the morning, brush your teeth and comb your hair. Put on your favorite outfit, put on your make up, look in the mirror and say: "God made me this way so I AM BEAUTIFUL! God has a special plan for my life, so I am on the RIGHT TRACK!" Then leave your house ready to take on any challenge that is thrown at you that day. HAVE CONFIDENCE!!! 

"Comparison is an act of violence against the self. When you believe you are not good enough, you will compare yourself to others." -Iyanla Vanzant. 

Published by Becoming Iyanla