Dear Brother, I Want You To Do Better. Like 1 Twitter Mahima Kapoor Follow July 11, 2016, 8:04 p.m. in Opinion Views: 660 Like us on facebook Dear brother, I can debate for hours with people about why I think Feminism is for everybody, and I can tell you what I think too, but you just don't listen, I still hope, However, that you'll read this one day and understand What today I can't make you understand, but I'll keep trying Because I don't want you to turn into our dad who didn't Have anyone who would even think of trying to explain To him the importance of his being a feminist, and I know That he has never been a bad figure to emulate in most Respects, but I wish you wouldn't choose him as the only Person you want to grow up like, although I know You'd very much want to be just like your dad, but I wish You would know better by the time you have to decide Which way to go, one or the other, when there would Be no cross road available, no periphery, because no Matter the love that binds us as a family, and no Matter the respect I do have for him, he has still not Been the perfect man that I wish you would grow into, Not perfect in terms of what the patriarchy wants you to be, But perfect in the way that you'd accept your un-manly "Imperfections", and perfect in the way that you'd accept my un-womanly "imperfections", and I don't exactly find it In me to blame him for every cry that has been exacted From me for being a woman, and every reverberating echo Those cries have left in my life after having been silenced, And every sore throat I have had after standing up to him And others for the other women in my life only to be Asked to stop, stop, please stop, by those very women, And I cannot exactly blame him for everything that He has not taught me and definitely not taught you, But I have to place blame somewhere, because While I have found out how to keep my conscious Untainted and untarnished, and how to deviate From roads that have been declared to be the only Ones I can tread on, and while I know how to be more Than I am supposed to be, you do not, neither do you know That I can be more than I am supposed to be, and you see, That makes me want to blame the entire the world, but I cannot Help but blame him too, and yet I also know that he's only the Product of the world that we live in, but I would have liked it if He had done better, I would have liked it more than I can ever say, So, dear brother, I am asking you, to please try to do better than What you are taught to, and will always be taught to. Published by Mahima Kapoor Share Mail Messenger Twitter Pinterest Linkedin Comments Anne Skyvington reply / view replies (0) Oct. 13, 2016, 7:53 a.m. I've tried for years to communicate with my older brother. it seems like a losing battle, as he's inherited—or developed?—my mother's narcissism. i kept trying with her too. i, too, retain the hope that he's taken in bits of the gifts of wisdom i've gained through feminism and other isms. Your comment was successful. Full Name* Message* Load More Related Article Opinion Dear My Black People Opinion The Noonday Demon: Dear sister Opinion Little Brother, our Father is dead to me so I have no problem posting this.