Un-forgiveness, bitterness and offence are all very dangerous emotions to hold as Christians. All throughout scripture we see the emphasis on taking the humble road and being ready to constantly forgive others. I want to draw our attention to some scriptures.

(Heb 12:14-15 [KJV])
Follow peace with all men, and holiness, without which no man shall see the Lord:
Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled;
 
 
 The above scripture instructs us to follow peace with all men. This is how the Holy Ghost operates. The Holy Spirit is NEVER hating on people. God does not approve of all of man’s decisions or behaviour, but nevertheless He loves everyone. Even those that have not made the decision to come into Gods Covenant. God’s heart is to reach out to these lost ones not attack them.

Hebrews 12:15 goes on to teach us not to fail of the Grace of God. Grace is the undeserved ability and power to overcome, given freely by God. So God is telling us through this scripture to not fail by not extending this grace to others. It tells us when we don’t extend that grace a root of bitterness can spring up in our lives and defile us.
This is the importance of not being offended. Let’s see if we can see this a bit clearer through more scripture

(Eph 4:29-32 [KJV])
Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.
 
 
Again we are seeing the emphasis on showing Grace unto those listening to us. The scriptures before Ephesians 4:29 were speaking of getting rid of all corrupt communication from our mouths. Now we are learning to make sure our words come with grace. We can never forget our desperate need for Grace in our lives. Well God wants us to extend that same Grace to others. This doesn’t mean there isn’t a time for correction, as long as it is done to edify and lift another person to a higher place of clarity in the Word and not to put down and attack another. Our motive is always key.
 
Verse 30 shows us that not extending this Grace to others Grieves God. Often we attack people when we get offended and have a tendency to gossip and speak evil of others. This behaviour grieves God. When someone offends or hurts us, Love will speak with the person and forgive. Walking in love means sometimes we will be defrauded.
Verse 31 shows us that when we are speaking with no Grace towards others it is because within us we have bitterness, wrath or anger. As we learnt from Hebrews 12, this is very dangerous. We can become defiled through this behaviour. We need to ask God for the Grace to stop this behaviour towards those that God loves.

​So I put a challenge out there for us all today. Before we speak to or about another person today, let’s ask the Lord if it is from a motive of Grace. Also if we hear gossip from a person about another person, question whether the person is extending the same Grace they need. If they are not, show them love and extend Grace to them. We are all learning and growing together.

Be blessed today
Carol Eddington. xx