In addiction recovery, there are many tools that can facilitate the process. One such is detachment. Simply put, detachment is a therapeutic method that many family members use to aid in the recovery of an addict. By simply ditching efforts to take responsibility for the addict, several addicts eventually turn around.

Just like the addict experiences a typical progression pattern, the family does as well. For instance in drug or alcohol addiction, the addict has the tendency of being ‘disabled’ by the progression. However, this causes the family to responsibility for the said addict. Therefore, there is a comparative pattern between the inclination to addiction and family care. An increase in roles and responsibilities towards the addict results in deep ‘parenting’ role as well. So, the need to help the addict often comes at a price. When family members get lost in the process, they start to exhibit certain mental and emotional health symptoms as well.

As the addict progresses, the family’s concern and need to help such addict deepens. Thus, there is a form of compulsion on the family when the addict goes through several stages. To prevent disasters, the family becomes emotionally attached to the process. Nevertheless, a pathological adjustment occurs from the shift of responsibilities. Hence, an addict feels a modification in the physical, behavioral, spiritual, and emotional facets.

The changes of the addict become incorporated with the function and structure of the system as additional declines. The need for family members to tackle the problem results in a series of methods that are futile. In an attempt to solve the addiction, the family members adjust to the addiction pathology in the bid to maintain the dysfunction. Such solutions enable the addict to continue the addiction behavior by removing the negative consequences of the behavior.

However, the family members are neither responsible for the continued addiction nor the initial cause of addiction. Unfortunately, the pattern is such that shows the family member’s association with the addiction's destructive dynamics.

In any case, detachment with love is necessary for family members that wish to recover their health and be in control of their lives. This explains why he compulsion mechanism behind helping the addict results in a greater risk to propel the problem. Consequently, the addict views this need for help as a ‘controlling’ mechanism.

Similarly, family members often obsess about the need to change the addict. These people nurture a feeling of entitlement that shows an unbending quest to be in total control of the addict’s life. By imposing solutions on the addict, the addict somewhat detaches from the process. As a counter effect, the family members become absolutely passionate about modifying the addict.

This is why detachment is an important tool in the pattern breaking process. Without anger and hostility, a family member may withdraw support for a certain addict. The individual must be ready to break every physical, emotional, and mental attachment to the addict. It is similar to leaving the battle for the warrior. Detaching with love allows the family to take better care of themselves. In fact, it is the total reversal of the person the family member has become during the addiction recovery process.