Do you feel stuck in a dead-end job? Are you often frustrated, when seeing how amazing your friends' lives are? Do you often catch yourself thinking that your friends don’t deserve their happiness and/or fortune?

If so, cry me a river. There’s only one person responsible for your own misfortune. Guess who? You.
And who’s able to change this? You. Fortunately.

Having been there and dealt with it, this is very relatable to me. I’ve always longed for freedom, not only economic freedom, but also the freedom to do exactly what I want with my life. When I didn’t accomplish it at first, I started envying my friends and their lives. I genuinely thought their happiness was the sole reason why I have dragged down in a hole myself, unable to climb up and reach my dreams. Boy, was I wrong, and I’m thankful I found out before it was too late.

Here I will share some of the habits and decisions I picked up and made along the way, to change my life for the better.

Dad, Student, Store Clerk, Business Owner?

By Thomas Hansen, about his journey to success:

I became a dad as a 21-year-old, which forced me to deal with ‘adult stuff’ at an early age. I was a store clerk, and could barely pay my bills every month. I was a store clerk, putting groceries on shelves day after day, the weekend after weekend until I finally had enough. I convinced myself that I needed an education. We cut down on our living costs, got a horrible (but cheap) apartment, and I started studying while working a part-time job in a grocery store.
However, somewhere deep inside of me, I had this dream of achieving something. Making myself independent of employment, a monthly salary and education. So I started reading about entrepreneurs. I wanted to understand why they became successful. How their mindsets are. I was surprised. Astonished. The mind is blown. What did most successful people have in common? They all started from scratch. Worked hard. Worked smart. Worked their way up. I started thinking: “If they can do it, I can do it!”.

From No-Man to Yes-Man

My attitude started changing. I started seeing possibilities. I started being curious and asked people questions. I asked them what they did, how they did it, and why they did it. I started following successful and inspirational people and studied the “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” theory of Robert Kiyosaki.

It quickly motivated me to do something on my own. I always liked making websites and found a way to make a living out of it. For me, the solution was affiliate marketing. Luckily, there are plenty of ways to make money online, depending on what you like.

The Fight Against Toxic People

Are you surrounded by naysayers? Are your closest friends known for being pessimists, never believing in any of your ambitions and ideas? Time to lose them.

As harsh as this might sound, it is very important that you don’t surround yourself with those kinds of people. They feed on others misfortune, and they will be the first ones there digging your hole deeper if you start falling even the slightest bit. And trust me, you WILL fall, but if you work hard and stay focused, you will always rise again. Great friends are an important factor in this, as they would rather help you cover the hole instead of digging it deeper.

Let’s say you’re working on opening your own bakery, but none of your friends really understand this type of business. Some might back you up and stand behind you, but some of them might try to talk you out of the idea, constantly telling you it will fail, and IF you have the slightest bad luck, they will be the first to say “I told you so”. Who do you think motivated you to work hard? The ones believing in you and supporting you -- or the ones being pessimistic about it?

Trust me on this one: You will never miss those “friends”, that never believed in you.

Working Hard and Having Fun?

This is very important. Your main motivation for becoming self-employed should never be related to money. The revenue from a business should always be considered a bonus. If you enjoy your work, the money will start flowing. Trust me. The true award of being self-employed lies in you loving your work.

How many people get to say they really love their work? Only a few people that gave up a safe, boring life on a payroll, to follow their dreams.

That’s why your main motivation should never be “how can I earn the most money?” but “how can I have fun while earning money?”.

What Have I Achieved?

From being a naysayer to an independent business owner, I’ve come a long way. I’ve achieved ultimate freedom, and enjoy it every day.

I started out by creating websites in Denmark and is currently expanding into the US with my sites reviuu.com and potsandpansrater.com.

I traveled most of the world by now, and still planning more adventures for myself and my family. I always bring a laptop, because I love my work. It’s natural for me to always strive for improvement, and you should too. You deserve it.

Published by Erika Rhea