This Christmas is different for me than it has ever been in my life. Last year, I remember being stressed because I didn't have enough time to shop for gifts because of my hectic schedule with work, writing, broadcasting and other whatnot. On this show, I've always tried to make sure that I highlight topics that affect everyone in the body of Christ with the understanding that maybe one day, I'll need it myself.

That has certainly happened for me.

It's always different when you're the one in the hot seat. This year, my twin sister battles ovarian cancer. I've seen her hit new lows I've never seen before. I've seen the effects of chemotherapy as she lost her hair, her health, and even some of her 'faith pep' (for the lack of a better term) as she struggles with trusting God and not leaning onto the present suffering. For myself, I remember talking about how it must feel to see someone we love going through something awful but now, I'm there. I watch her as she deals with it and find myself in my own faith struggles as well. 

However, thanks be to God, that I truly rest in the assurance that He will never leave us alone. Even in the midst of calamity.  I find myself in a state of grief and I'm sure there are many out there for whom the holidays hold grief. Whether the loss of a loved one, someone you know going through some calamity, or anything, I wanted, no--, needed to invite my returning guest, Gary Roe to let us know there is such a thing as 'good grief' and that we all can survive the holidays.

Join us for hope, encouragement, and joy as we talk about good grief. You can call in at 646-668-8485, press 1 to be live on air. Or, download Stitcher on your mobile device. Or, click on the link here.

My story began with a childhood of mixed messages and sexual abuse. This touched the core of my being and skewed everything. I buried the memories to survive.

Hungry to be loved, I became a performing animal. I over-achieved at everything, but the emptiness remained.

More hits came. I lost friends. My parents divorced. My dad died in front of me. My mom attempted suicide. Life, my life, was falling apart.

Another family took me in. I began to experience love and acceptance on a new level. My heart began to settle. My healing journey began.

I found myself wanting to help other wounded hearts heal and grow. Over the next three decades,
I served as a campus minister, a missionary in Japan, an entrepreneur in Hawaii, and a pastor. I’m currently a writer, chaplain, and grief counselor with Hospice Brazos Valley in central Texas.

After walking through deep valleys with thousands of people, I can say the following with confidence:

  • We’ve all been wounded
  • Healing isn’t for sissies 
  • We’re all designed for impact
  • The world needs us
  • We must heal

I’m no guru or master of anything. I’m a fellow struggler. I still bear the scars of my wounds. I grieve, get anxious, worry, and battle fear regularly. But I’m healing, and I’m growing.

I invite you to join me. Launch out and do one (or all!) of the following:

We’re in this together, and I’d like to help.

Healing is out there, and it’s closer than you think.


Gary is the author of:

He also has over 400 grief-related, inspirational articles in print and is a popular speaker at a wide variety of venues.

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Published by Parker J Cole