During the last few decades the researches in the department of cognitive science brought up a new theory that shows how our way of reasoning and feeling are directly influenced by our bodily posture and experiences in the physical world.

This new philosophical theory is called embodied cognition. The whole idea is to prove that the mind is not only connected to the body, but that the body influences the whole work of the mind.

It all started from an older idea that the thought could be described with formal logic dominated much on philosophical thinking and the mind was thought of as a computer program separated from the body with the brain as a general-purpose hardware.

Seeing the flaws of this theory more studies were made by several behaviorists and philosophers. The key figure in this new research on how people behave and think was Professor George Lakoff, who has presented his idea that we actually “think metaphorically”.

This is in fact quite right. You see, when we are warm we instantly think of love, home, happiness, we are at peace. This feeling comes from our experiences as a child when we were hugged from someone that loved us very much and we instantly felt their warmth around us.

Other example is when someone is getting angry he doesn’t need to tell us that, but we can see it from the change of the color on his face, the rate of breathing, the hearth beat rises and he assumes position ready for fight. So only by watching and observing all that is happening to this person, we came to a conclusion that he is angry and ready to hit someone.

Basically the embodied cognition theory says that if we are faced with a problem, or have a question to answer, our response will be highly influenced by our bodily experience we are having in that particular moment when the question is being asked.

 This same philosophy can be used to show how our bodily posture can strongly influence the answer to a question concerning our love life. And exactly this was tried to be proven in a study conducted by the University of Pittsburgh and the University of Waterloo in Canada which decided to examine the interrelation between stability, turbulence and love.

Namely they told the participants in the study to tell how they feel about their relationship and their partner while being in two distinct circumstances.

One group had to answer question about their partners while sitting straight on a perfectly suited chair and desk, and another group had to answer the same question but they were seated in little bit altered, wobbly chairs that didn’t suit the body.

The group that was in the not-altered environment gave answers that were concentrated upon the good things in their relationships, and those seated in the wobbly chairs talked about the negative side of their relationship.

Here we can see the strong correlation between the outer circumstances we are dealt with and the side we choose to present as an answer to a question asked while we are stuck in a specific situation.

And we can see the accuracy of this theory in our everyday life. Say, we have a lot of pain in the back, or we are really sick in a manner that we can’t seat up strait, walk properly and we have so much muscle tension. In such condition if our loved ones asks us if we love them, we probably answer: “oh leave me alone, don’t ask me that now, can’t you see I don’t feel good?” and they would take this as a negative answer.

But, the whole pain in our body, the displacement of our bones and nerves from the all that lying in bed, will sent only painful feelings to our brain, which will be processed into negative thoughts, which we shall materialize as negative words. For this reason one must understand that we speak in an altered state.

Here I must add an interesting fact about this theory of embodied cognition. You see, we actually use this theory (unconsciously or very consciously) all the time when we want to manipulate someone’s behavior for our interest.

One example is when we want our partner to think the best of us, to say only sweet things to us and to choose the best possible future for us, we intentionally make a romantic surrounding were he/she can be relaxed, without any disturbance and outer or inner inconveniences.

This surrounding will eventually lead his/her mind to relax and perceive only the best features into the room. The dim light, the music, the whole subtle details will open his brain to conceiving thoughts that go on our behalf.

So remember that sometimes we actually don’t even mean what we are saying, especially when we are in pain or improper bodily posture. Simply, our body being in pain transmits only painful information to the cells of the brain and since we are preoccupied with this painful situation, our brain creates no other thoughts but negative ones.

But once all is well, if our partner ask us once again the same question, the brain shall produce more happily thoughts that will result in more positive answers.

Thus feeling physically balanced or off-balance, has a huge impact on which side of your love situation we are concentrating upon.

So don’t take everything personally, most of the time the answer you receive has nothing to do with you, but with the other person’s physical situation.

Source: https://thepowerofsilence.co


Published by Helen Bradford