You have a goal you’d like to achieve, right?

Take a moment to think about that goal. It might be a financial one, like increasing your income for the year.

It might be a health-related one, like losing a certain amount of weight.

It might be a personal development one, like reading a book a week.

But no matter what your goal is, there is only one real key to achieving those goals. It’s called delayed gratification.

 

Delayed What?

Delayed gratification is, simply, an acknowledgement that whatever you’re working toward will take time.

It’s the acknowledgement that you didn’t get into your current situation overnight, so you won’t be able to get out of it overnight.

While shortcuts do exist, all they do is add more time to your journey in the end. Instead of trimming time off the end of your journey, they force you to work harder to catch up.

For example, if your goal is to drive a nicer car, you may be able to meet that goal today by buying one using your credit card. But you’ll be paying it off for years to come, long after that car has lost its excitement.

Life can be discouraging sometimes, but it’s important to keep an eye on what it is you want to achieve. That way, you can make your way around these frustrating times without having to suffer too much stress.

 

Successful People Struggle Too

If you have someone you admire, take a moment to think of them.

Maybe a business owner, an athlete, a parent, or an artist you look up to and hope to emulate.

If you look at their life, it may seem like they have it all figured out. This is especially the case on social media, where people only show their happiest moments. Everyone loves to post about their day at the beach, but no one ever posts about their nervous breakdown!

The truth is, everyone deals with struggle and hardship in their lives. While it’s true that some struggle more than others, you can never say that anyone has a life without struggle. So when you look at your idols, you see the result of their hard labour and effort, not the years of struggle it took them to get there.

Here are three tips to help you get through the struggle and achieve your goals.

 

1. Learn To Accept Failure

Sometimes you will succeed and sometimes you will fail.

There’s nothing you can do to change that. No matter how hard you try, sometimes you’ll run into a situation where the outcome isn’t what you hoped it would be.

The bigger the goal you have, the more it will hurt if you fail to achieve it. But by reframing failure not as a bad thing, but as a natural thing, you can take its sting away. When you know you will sometimes fail at things no matter what, you can begin to see failure as just an opportunity to grow.

And then, when you face another situation like it in the future, you’ll make a much better decision.

 

2. Be Persistent

This ties in with failure. If you experience a failure, for whatever reason, it’s easy to just throw in the towel and accept it. And you should accept your failure for what it is – a learning experience.

But that doesn’t mean you should give up trying and move on.

Accept the fact that you failed, yes. Learn from your failure, yes. But don’t allow your failure to suck you into a state of passive acceptance.

Imagine trying to run a marathon with no shoes on. If you fail, does that mean you can’t run a marathon? No, it just means you have a bad strategy.

Instead, pivot your strategy to help reach your goals.

 

3. Find Clarity About What You Want

Before you achieve a goal, you need to know what your goal is.

And saying “I want to lose weight” or “I want to make more money” are not good goals. While you may want these things, it’s not specific enough to give you something to work for.

After all, if you weigh 300 pounds, you could lose 3 pounds and technically meet your goal, but it won’t get you anywhere.

Experience the world around you, be curious, and try new things. The more you try, the more you’ll learn about what you want out of life, and the better your goals will become.

 

Define Your Own Success

You have the power to create a successful life. Once you know what you're working towards, you're committed to being persistent, and you can accept failure for what it is, you'll be much closer to achieving your goals and living the lifestyle of your dreams. Stay focused on your dreams, and don't let the shiny objects distract you. Instant gratification will only hold you back.

About the author

I'm Fabrizio Fusco, Personal Health & Life Expert. Do you feel unfulfilled or stuck with your life? It's time to change. Start living like a winner. Get healthy, feel great and begin loving life again. I can show you how.

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