College friends are ones that are supposed to transcend time and space; no matter where you are or what you're doing, reunions are joyous and laughter is everlasting.

Yet, you should not put a pressure on yourself to find perfect people, because frankly, they don't exist. The people you surround yourself with should help you improve yourself, and not be draining.

So, in light of that, here are some tips:


Have friends with similar goals. Now, this doesn't mean they have to have the same major or career aspirations, though those friends are nice too. What I mean is they have to have a similar sense of purpose in their lives. For example, I study engineering and my best friend from high school studies philosophy; we both however want to learn as much as we can about our subjects. We both have a passion to learn, and use that knowledge to do good work. Thus, when we are having problems academically or are doubting ourselves, we know to push each other because of our mutual goal.

Meet friends through interest groups. This seems pretty obvious, but it's hard to do sometimes. I know that once I made a semi-friend group my first semester, I felt no urge to go try anything else. But, in order to make cool, interesting, and fun friends, you have to try cool, interesting, and fun things. So that means learning to surf with others, or hiking nearby with the outdoor-sy club at your school, or exploring a city nearby on a trip. Don't feel like you need someone with you either. You're totally allowed to go solo, and in fact, it might be better for you.

Meet through spiritual means. If you are religious, meeting people through your faith will be very good for your spiritual well-being. It all has to do with people having similar goals to you, and you can find common ground with people you may have never met otherwise.


Now that you have some friends, make sure you aren't negligent of them.

You cannot meet someone once, discover their middle name and call yourselves friends. Make sure you put time into the relationship in order to figure out whether the dynamic is good for you or not.

Remember, you cannot be best friends with everyone. In fact, there is the idea of Dunbar's number (linked below) that limits how many people one can cognitively keep in contact with. Within those, there are only a few who can be very close to a person, usually family, a spouse, and a few friends.

You also don't have unlimited time or resources, so it makes sense to stick to a few friends. Of course, let yourself meet people and then decide who is good for you.

Any more tips? Let me know below!

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Published by Sabrine G