HUSTLE HARD: FINDING YOUR NICHE

I’m currently in school for psychology, I originally planned to go to law school, I changed my mind and decided to go to school for ASL interpreting and now I’m a writer. Huh? Life is never a perfectly straight line leading you to your destination. I know when I was eight, being a lawyer was the only thing on my mind. I used to tell my mother’s friends that I would go to Harvard to their amusement. I had the grades and the memory for it but I didn’t have the passion and that’s where I went wrong. You see, sometimes you are put in an uncomfortable place to find out something new about yourself. For a while, I didn’t know what I wanted. I didn’t want to be a lawyer and I wasn’t ready to graduate so soon from college. Wilson early college already shaved off two years but I couldn’t wrap my head around leaving so soon. I sought God and trustworthy friends who showed me how much I love Sign Language. I dedicated my college research on finding good programs for when I leave UNCC and had my mind set. So, how did I become a writer?

I was greatly inspired by one of my good friends to start writing down my thoughts on a blog. This lady is the true example of WonderWoman. She does it all. I admired her following and what she wrote so I took the plunge and finally made one of my own. If she could do it, so could I. I was nervous and kept the idea under wraps for months. What if people didn’t like what I had to say? I decided to suck it up and create a blog. I received countless messages from people saying how much it helped them and each time my phone gets a Facebook message or a new email, I feel a sense of pride. Finding what you’re good at is not going to be easy but when you find it, hold on to it. I would rather have a job that I love that pays little than a job that I hate that pays a lot. I’ve been blessed to have a good set of friends and a bomb writing mentor who helped me start ghostwriting novels for authors. People like her who support others and share the wealth will end up being blessed 100-fold. Here’s how you can find what you’re destined to do:

  1. Step out of your comfort zone
    1. Writing a blog wasn’t hard for me. I like to talk so, how different is it on the internet. The hard thing for me was when I became a ghostwriter. I had to send in my stories to my mentor and get critiques. I had to put myself out there, make a profile, and a name for myself in the writing industry. The Morgan last year would have never done that because the Morgan last year wanted to be a lawyer. Don’t lose sight of your dreams just because something doesn’t go your way initially. Being a writer makes me happy. I get more cramps in my fingers from all of the typing but I’m happy.
  2. Realize the things that come naturally still require work
    1. Being a good writer doesn’t make me a great writer. I can weave stories but past tense and point of view can be hard for me. Do not fall weary when you have to work hard for something you know that you’re good at. I don’t like criticism and this industry is chock full of it. Editors are cutthroat and you need to be able to brush it off, say ‘thank you’ and keep it moving. Remember, people who criticize you want you to grow. If they didn’t, they would let you keep floundering on the “good” side and not the “great” side.
  3. Don’t lose hope
    1. It took me three weeks to get my first writing job. I was getting frustrated and almost gave up. I sent in over 20 proposals and no one took me in. I felt like a failure. My mentor was making so much money ghostwriting and here I was hoping for someone to give me a shot. I finally got one after three weeks. You must be patient with your dreams. Everything works on God’s timing. Someone who is ahead of you still had to struggle just as much as you did. You’re seeing their “after” when you are their “before”. One day you’ll be able to reap what you sow but until then, be patient.
  4. Thank your mentors
    1. THANK YOU JANAE, THANK YOU MEISHA. You guys are my bread and butter. Without you both I wouldn’t have the guts to do what I love. I love helping others through my work and I love writing for people. Without your endless text messages and help, Janae, I wouldn’t be where I am today. Without your diligence and love, I wouldn’t have created a blog at all, Meisha. Thank the people who got you where you are. Gratitude is a gift sweeter than candy.
  5. Become a mentor
    1. If you have a passion for something and you know others who do too, help them. Do not be a crab in a barrel. Let other people reach the pinnacle of happiness that you have. Answer their questions honestly and don’t deter them. Be patient with their frustrations for you were just in their place. Be the love you wish to see in this world.

This is a thank you post for everyone who believed in me. Without you all (and there are so many to name) I wouldn’t be here now. I’m just getting started, but you all gave me the wings to fly this high. Thank you again and may God continue to bless you all.