I’m not entirely sure what’s more annoying: Telling men that I am a nanny or mothers that I’m a nanny.

I know they say that when you are “the one” that you are "the one," and that he won’t care what you do, but it’s a little weird to call myself a nanny, especially being single at 27. Shouldn’t this be the phase of my life where I am in my career, not out of one career and desperately trying to figure out what I want to do with my life?

Telling people that you’re a nanny is strange. You get several different responses, but they are all clique. You have the maternal women who think you are a saint, and you also have the cold-hearted women who don’t understand why you would devote your waking hours to taking care of other people’s children. As for men, some men hear “babies” and assume that since you take care of kids all day that you're just dying to pop out a dozen of your own, or you have the men who hear you’re trying to be a writer and don’t really care about the day-time nanny gig and are more interested in the blog you write about your day-time nanny gig.

But the most annoying, and hurtful, responses I get are from the insecure mothers I meet at preschool or mommy and me classes. They look at me: Tall, wearing workout clothes with a crazy, messy bun at the top of my head. I'm never wearing makeup and there is a pretty good chance that I have pee or milk on my shirt, yet they don't trust me. They start to ask about the children’s parents (a partner at a law firm and a CTO). They ask me if I’m married. I respond with a quick no. No need to tell them that there isn’t even a man around to send semi-drunk, flirty texts to.

From here, most of the women will continue to look me up and down at least a few more times and end the conversation, presumably to gossip about me to the real mothers. But then every so often, you meet those mothers with no filters and say what most of the moms are thinking. “I could never have a hot nanny!” “I wouldn’t let my husband anywhere near you!” Yes, these are actual conversations I’ve had. I try hard not to let these comments upset me, but they certainly rub me the wrong way. I believe that when you are in a committed relationship and you are confident in the relationship you wouldn’t feel intimidated by anyone, including the nanny. Yes, we've all seen the Lifetime movies with the nannies with hidden agendas, but most of us really are there with the intention of making the family's life easier. Shocker, I know! 

As much as I love being a nanny, I am looking forward to the day, once again, where I make my living as a writer. When years from now I can tell people that in my mid-twenties I had a quarter-life crisis and abruptly quit my job to raise children and that dating during that time was awful and the real moms either loved me or hated me, but that it was the best decision that I could have ever made.

Published by Rachel Tannenbaum