I am the proud pretend mama to two little boys- Big Bear and Little Bear, ages 3 years and thirteen months. My days consist of laughter, cozy cuddles, tantrums and tears, and usually end with the eldest singing “So Long, Farewell” from the Sound of Music as I rush out the door.

Known to my friends as a “paid stay-at-home mom,” I consider myself a writer. When I meet people and they ask me what I do, I tell them that I am a writer. When they ask me what I write I tell them that I used to be a business reporter and I now freelance (does writing articles and not submitting them count?) but that I support myself as a nanny. This usually raises a few eyebrows. A nanny, they ask? Looking me up and down. They either think it’s absurd to have a native Miamian for a nanny, or they think I’m a Lifetime vixen who is out to steal the husband and murder the wife. I’d like to think that I'm not that vindictive. 

Maybe it’s misleading to call myself a writer, since I've barely been published in the three years since I left my job at the newspaper, but I haven’t stopped writing. I’ve doodled in journals, abandoned a manuscript loosely based on my career as a reporter, and have attempted to write blogs and children’s books.

Although I did all of this (abandoned) writing, I never wrote about my overly consuming, yet often exhausting, job. It’s crazy that I hadn’t thought of writing a blog sooner, considering the adventures that I’ve had with the Bears. Attending a Bar Mitzvah in the Bahamas where my hotel room was bigger than my apartment, taking birthday trips to Disney World. I have been mistaken for their mother more times than I can count and have taken the boys all over Miami, without any concern from either parent. It wasn’t until I was on the phone with a friend, recounting some of my favorite nanny stories, from changing dirty diapers in the back of my Jeep to ordering a bagel at Starbucks and having Big Bear eat the entire thing, that I realized that my life as a pretend mom needed to be documented.

Day-Mom (coined by the boys’ real mom) is my blog about Big Bear and Little Bear, pseudonyms for the boys based on the book “Big Bear’s Little Boat” by Eve Bunting. On the rare occasion that both boys are napping at the same time, or I have a few hours in the evening when I'm not exhausted, I document my life as a Day-Mom.    

In the words of Big Bear: “Ready set, you bet!”

Published by Rachel Tannenbaum