She was born, she was feeded with milk, that which ended taking her life.. She was killed because she was a girl, a liablity, who would push the family into debt…. We all are well acquainted to female foeticide. How some people discern from having a baby girl and kill her before birth itself or later. This is not new to our society. From eons this ritual has been carried on and still not even a single soul who could decipher why it is so and what has created this feeling in minds of people. Well, firstly people don’t want a baby girl, because, she comes with baggages of debts. Bearing a girl child, means to them, spending money on her health, education and marriage, with complete no returns in bargain, but the other way they find it profitable to educate their sons, spend on them, so as to reap benefits, during marriage by asking for more dowry. To look at this, these are the reasons, that has led to female foeticide . Our society, which considers, a girl to be somebody else’s property, from the time of birth itself. She is considered as “parayadhan” literally translating to somebody else’s property. So is that the reason, that she is considered as a loan taken by her parents, who at the time of her marriage, have to be repayed back with double the interest? Spending oodles of money and sometimes even breaking their savings and taking loans, just to repay back the debt of bearing a girl child during her marriage. Is it right? This particular ritual, that has become a precedent in our society can be dated back to olden days, when the king got his daughter married to the mightiest prince, in bargain of protection for him from enemy kingdoms and for the prince to emerge victorious, gave gold coins, army, wealth, etc at the time of marriage. This was then relevant, when marriage was more like a trade, and sole motto of imperialism. But does, this stand relevant to the present time? Educating a girl, may feel like a burden to some parents, as they think, what is the use of educating her, when, we are not going to reap any benefits out of this? Don’t you think, some rituals are to be revolutionized and represented in a new way? Just think, nowadays girls and boys are educated enough to secure their living. A girl is well educated and hence there arises no need for spending oodles of money in her marriage, in bargain of getting her married. By the time, kids get married, parents are on the verge of retirement or already retired, who are living on the money saved for future. Is it right to expect them to spend money? On the other hand, with rise in cost of living, A day’s marriage costs nothing less than 10 lakhs or even more. Is is smart thing to spend so much unwantedly? So why not today’s generation take up the things in their hand. The groom and the bride spend for their own marriage. Nowadays both girl and boy earn well, are educated and knows to differentiate between right and wrong. This will also make them value money and relationship & not take eachother for granted. and at the same time, help to curb this feeling of unwantedness of girl child in the society. A girl will be educated to stand on her own leg and be knowledgeable enough to remove her family out of the brink of ignorance, and stop this evil from spreading. If parent’s wish to spend, ask them to give a token of 101 as blessing and rest be taken up by the bride and groom. Somewhere, the cause of female foeticide is related to the spending or dowry in marriage which can be only curbed or vanquished by today’s literate generation. When the thinking of a girl being a liability itself will be destroyed, no girl child will ever fail to see the dawn in future. She will prove to be that blessing, who takes a family towards prosperity and transcendence.. So lets come together and Fight against dowry, which is the primary cause of female foeticide, by pledging, to finance our own marriage. “A small step it may be, but in future it will show the future, the road to divine”…

Published by Aishwarya Raghunath