The best person to advise ourselves is, in fact, ourselves.

We have been present at every single second of our lives.

We have felt every single moment of joy, love, happiness, disappointment, shame, pain and so on.

From that, there are always lessons.

Yet somehow at times, we override our own instincts and we allow either ourselves or others to influence us to go against our feelings. That leads to the repeating pattern and the same results and inevitable frustration.

In order to listen to ourselves, we need to get curious as to why we are overriding what we know to be the right answer for us. Until we discover that we will continue to frustrate ourselves by not listening to ourselves and lessons will be impossible to learn.

We have all the right answers most of the time, it's just learning how to listen and apply them.

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Published by Philip Dodson