It’s no surprise that when people look upon society today all they see are narcissistic young adults who seem to be clinging onto their phones for dear life. Narcissism is defined as, “extreme selfishness, with a grandiose view of one's own talents and a craving for admiration.” It is a word that we, as a generation, are probably quite use to hearing. But is it a good enough word to define our generation as a whole?

We are the generation of the “selfie” as well as the generation that loves posting almost anything to our Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, and Twitter. We use theses social media outlets to show off the many photos that were taken on our trip to Italy or to let all of our followers know that we got our dream job. As we post these updates, we hope that everyone will see it and appreciate it. There have been times when I have checked my Facebook and couldn’t help but feel jealous of all my friends’ adventures and accomplishments.

 It is said that your twenties are when you should be experiencing everything that you can and living your life to the fullest. A time when you should be seeing the world before going off to grad school or getting a job that will be taking up the rest of your life. It’s the time where you should be figuring out who you want to be and what you like most about yourself. So when I’m looking at my friends on Facebook and seeing all of their achievements, I can’t help but wonder if I truly am living my life in the best way possible. I believe it is natural to feel jealous and inferior to others when viewing their lives through social media platforms.

The real question, however, is why do we feel that we need to inform our friends on the Internet about what we’re doing every day, every hour, every minute? Why must we post photos from our study abroad trip or family vacation?  Is it because we truly are a narcissistic generation or is it because we just want to feel appreciated? Part of me believes that yes, we are a generation who will only feel attractive and important depending on the amount of “likes” we get on our Instagram and Facebook. Despite this, I also believe that we are a self-loving generation and it’s a good thing.  

Before this generation, people have never been as connected as we are. While there is a small sense of feeling inferior after looking at my friends’ online posts, it is pushed aside by feeling a push to go on my own adventures and to achieve my own goals. In the end, does it really matter if some people choose to self-promote online? Instead of being annoyed or jealous, maybe we can appreciate another’s accomplishments. From photos of Graduation or a birth of a child, maybe we can learn to appreciate these achievements. These moments are the ones in our lives that we must treasure. It is human of us to want to share our happiness with others, even if it is done somewhat excessively.

So, to everyone who is called a narcissist, ignore it and keep promoting self-love. It’s pretty amazing to be so connected in this generation and it’s even better to be proud of who you are and what you choose to do.  

 

Published by Megan Wong