This article was originally posted on my blog Money for the Average Girl.

Are you currently in a position at work but you’re wanting more? You’ve been wanting that promotion. Or are you in the process of starting a business, or you're wanting to start one, but you haven’t told anybody yet because you’re waiting for them to come to you? This is what today’s topic is all about.

There are so many of us that play the waiting game, and we’re just hoping that people will notice us whether it's for a promotion, or new prospects. We see people making the money that we wish we had, or getting the positions that we wanted, and it gets depressing. We tend become resentful towards that person. And why? Because they’re getting the things that we want and we haven’t gone for. It’s like we’re three all over again, wanting that toy that the kid next to us is playing with.

But when you were three what did you do? You took it from him. You didn’t sit around waiting for the kid to come to you and ask you if you wanted to play with it. No. You knew what you wanted and you went, and you took it. And then the toy was yours, and you played, and you had fun.

But as adults, that’s the problem. We sit around and we wait to be noticed. We don’t go and take what we want. We don’t ask for the things that we want. Now, I’m not a mind reader, and most people aren't. They don’t know what you want. And we, more-so women than men, tend to maintain a humility and humbleness about us, thinking that if we work hard enough people will just notice our efforts and reward us with the things that we want. Sometimes that does happen, but more often than not, that’s not the case.

So what is it that we can do about it?

Well, if there’s a promotion that you’ve been eyeing up, ask to be considered for it. even if you don’t get it, ultimately you’re further ahead than you were if you didn’t ask in the first place.

Also, work on personal development. We all have strengths and weaknesses. There’s always additional skillets that we can add to what we currently have. Work on your personal development, add new skills, and also strengthen the ones that you currently have. That’s always a huge asset to whatever it is that you may be going for in the future.

Lastly, create a marketing plan or a goal plan. Envision what it is that you want. Set a timeline for it and break it up into individual action items so that you know the steps that need to be taken to get to where you want to be.

Ultimately, you want to be that three year old. Don’t just sit back in the sandbox and wait for that kid to come to you. Go for it. Act on it. Don’t wait around to get noticed.

Published by Joss Hawk