In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"


"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be good idea to take a moment and filter what you’re going to say. That’s why I call it the triple filter test. The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"Well, no," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and…"

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don’t really know if it’s true or not. Now, let’s try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"Hmm, no, on the contrary…"

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about my friend, but you’re not certain it’s true. You may still pass the test though, because there’s one filter left—the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true, nor good, nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"


Let  us not waste time in talking about others just for the sake of it, wasting energy in idle talk and rumors, finding faults in others lives.

I remember my mom always used to say to me "when you point a finger at somebody, you have three fingers pointing back at you". I think that is a really good "rule of thumb to follow", pun intended. When we see fault in others, they maybe mirroring an aspect of ourselves that we dislike. There is a reason within us why a particular flaw that we see in others bothers us so much, it may just be only a reflection of ourselves repressed deep within our subconscious mind. We judge others by our own standards.

Remember the words of Jesus who said:

"Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye with never a thought of the great plank in your own?...

"First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's"

Instead it's best to accept others as they are, we cannot change anyone, we can only change ourselves. It goes without saying that sometimes we are also our own worst enemies in self-judgement. This is just a habit. Habits can be changed. The first step in accepting others as they are is to start accepting ourselves, with love and compassion.

We are all learning as we go on in our journeys, we are all a "work in progress".  Becoming aware of our short-comings is the first step, having the desire to change is the next.  Finally,  each time we catch ourselves in action, let us stop , reflect and reprogram our new habit. To love ourselves is to eliminate the guilt and the fear that pushes us to judge and be critical of ourselves and others. Let's find the good instead, and intensify that good by focusing on it.

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from my blog: https://bodyandsoulnourishmentblog.wordpress.com/

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Published by Amira Carluccio