Let's set the scene a little. I am at the park near our kids school. There are several of us there, watching our kids. Some being more of the helicopter parent. I more the letting my kids be free range parent often feel like I don't quite fit in. This is also because of the lulu lemon moms. That's for another post. 

I was talking with a few of the parents. I mentioned how I was really looking forward to getting away for a few days. Some of them chimed in about how nice it was that the kids and I were going some where. Where were we going and all those questions.

I went on to explain that the kids weren't coming. I was leaving the kids and their dad for a weekend of me time. I was going to hang out with some friends in a different city for a few days. I pretty much looked like an alien to them at this point. I'm pretty sure one of them even questioned how good of a mother I was based on what I said. Yep, it's true. I actually enjoy leaving my children. So much so that I do it at least 2-3 times a year if possible!!

Before you go all judgmental on me and think I am a terrible mom, let me say this. I love them. I love them so much it hurts. I love them and they are everything to me. I love(d) my family so much I ended up losing myself. I also ended up very ill. I did everything for them. I ignored many symptoms for them. I lost interest in things and forgot who I was.

One day as I was driving my very young children home from the grocery store, we came to a red light. I was so tired. So very tired. I was going on very little sleep despite the fact that our kids were awesome sleepers. It was at that red light my eyes were so heavy. I finally decided it was time to go to a Dr because it really didn't seem very safe for me to be driving.

Our family went through some changes and finally I decided it was time to do something for myself. I went to the Dr. Thankfully I managed to find myself a pretty decent Dr. She listened to me ramble on for nearly 20 minutes about how I was feeling. She decided I needed blood work. She called a few days later and asked for me to come in. She also asked, if possible to have someone drive me in. Well that wasn't possible so I drove myself. Turned out my iron was dangerously low and she was also able to diagnose me with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis. Skip 6 years and I am much healthier. During those 6 years of becoming healthier I learned to take time for myself.

It is perfectly normal and okay to leave your children and husband alone together for a few days. Do not feel guilty about this. I have finally found me again. I am enjoying things that I used to like and have even discovered some new things I enjoy doing. Lots of my mom friends say they don't have time to do things for themselves. They are too busy doing everything for their family. MAKE THE TIME! You are just as important as they are. I'd say even more so. We really are what keeps our households functioning. If you can't function properly then the dominoes start to fall.

My advice to new moms or even seasoned ones - take time for you. You deserve it.

Published by Leanne Diplock