“A woman with a voice is by definition, a strong woman” - Melinda Gates

AMAZING!

Lizzie Velasquez, the beautiful woman in the picture above is absolutely, superbly, undeniably, unequivocally, uniquely, irrefutably, unquestionably, categorically and conclusively REMARKABLE and INCREDIBLE.

I came across her story on the internet and it had me glued to my chair. She is a beautiful woman with an undiagnosed condition that makes it impossible for her to gain weight and this show in her physical appearance.

I can imagine all the many hardships she had to put up with – the unfriendly stares, unpleasant comments etc. Her condition got her bullied in her childhood and early youth.  I guess the last straw was when someone put up a YouTube video of her and termed her “THE UGLIEST WOMAN IN THE WORLD”.

I can only imagine how those first few seconds for her were like…… I can only imagine how she must have felt her world crumbling down with the blast from those 6 vile and insufferable words.

Those are such cruel, hateful words to say to another human being. As if that wasn’t enough, the comments that followed were heart breaking “Ewww what a monster!!!” “Kill it with fire” “Why didn’t her parents just abort her?!” “Do everyone a favor and just kill yourself” “Why would her parents keep her?” “Put a bag over your head when you go out” …………and it goes on.

How cruel can we be to our fellow humans?

And social media for what it is had the video spiral unending to about a 7-figure view count… You can imagine your life literarily made bare in the eyes of the whole world and not in a pleasant way.

Such words are so horrible and vile that they can literarily break anyone and kill someone’s spirit.

Really, how would you feel if such hateful words were said to you? Heartbroken? Furious? Superbly angry? I guess most of us would have become suicidal just to put an end to it all.

But not Lizzie……. She isn’t one to go down without a fight. She isn’t one to let the challenges of life outlive her. She isn’t one to let bullies off the hook just like that. She fought back and still fights back. She went for the biggest payback ever that would hurt bullies world over – SHE MADE HER LIFE AN INSPIRATION TO THE WORLD. She is having the last laugh. Can you beat that?

She was done with the crying and hurting and she faced life squarely in the face, coming to terms with the reality of the cruelty of the world. But in all of this, she got something amazing….. She had discovered her life’s purpose.

She said, “…….people are going to be saying these things and it’s horrible but we are going to have to just move on and we are going to just have to show these people that you can keep making these websites, you can keep commenting on them, you can keep saying how ugly I am and look at what I am doing now. I am not ugly. I am not the world’s ugliest woman. So they can keep doing what they want…keep doing it ….because I’m just going to keep doing what I want and become a better person than they ever will……”

Now, how about that?

Those are words of strength! Those are words of courage! Those are words of determination! Those are words of inspiration! ………..Ahhhh! I could go on and on.

Life threw her a “challenge”.

Society termed her “abnormal”.

The world called her “ugly”.

But she would accept none of that. She fights back not with violence or anger or even hatred. She fights back with the strongest weapons against evil – courage, compassion and love. She speaks up to defend not just herself but for victims of bullying all over the world…… And has made that her sole purpose – use her story to change the world…..as she says, “…she is not only telling her story but telling everyone’s story”.

Today, she is a motivational speaker and author.

This is really a woman with a brave heart and she has a movie made to this effect.

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If only the person who put up the video knows the amount of power, courage and motivation he/she fueled into Lizzie to further make her, the great, beautiful and amazing woman she is today. She has a face and she proudly stands tall as she speaks to the world either through her book, YouTube videos or her motivational talks.

She has a face. She has a voice.

I am guessing all the haters are all hidden under the veil of anonymity thinking bullying others is a great way to make them feel good about themselves. Uh uh! There they are wrong. It is them just displaying their insecurities and immaturity and now to their discredit, she turned out superbly awesome.

The social media that was once the bane of her existence is now her greatest tool in changing the world. Lizzie further gives meaning to what I always say, “Your status doesn’t define you. You define your status”.

This is a woman who isn’t just existing but living a great life.

As a woman, how many of us can say as much about ourselves? Life throws us a couple of punches and we fall flat on our backs and refuse to get up or even try again. We wallow in self-pity, lose our heads in low self-esteem and trample on our dignity.

We forget we have a responsibility to ourselves – LIVE.

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Really, life is too short to be “ordinary”. In your own way, you can live a simple, wonderful, happy and extraordinary life by just being who you are born to be….by living out your purpose.

Stop trying to adhere to the so-called norms of the society. Break free of these rules and be happy. Stand out from the crowd. Hans F. Hansen once said, “It takes nothing to join the crowd. It takes everything to stand out”.

Go out there and live a little……….naaaaaa…Scrap that……Live much. You deserve it. We all do. This is your life. Be the star in it and not the side kick, supporting player or understudy.

Why be the same as others? You are your own person and you are accountable for all your actions – good or bad. The highest anyone can do is to impose their will on you but you have your own free will to break loose of their hold and say, “Enough!”

Follow your dreams. Live out your passions. Utilize your talents. Take a cue from Lizzie in the story above and let your life be an inspiration to others. You are responsible for your own happiness irrespective of the blows life throws at you. Turn those blows around and use them to your advantage.

I figure sometimes, bad things happen to us so we can achieve a higher purpose and attain a greater happiness and fulfillment in life.

You have the power to say “No!” to negativity. Be the boss of yourself.

Albert Einstein said, “The woman who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The woman who walks alone is likely to find herself in places no one has ever been before”.

Where has life taken you? How deep in the rut have you fallen? How bad are those wrongs you have done that you think it’s impossible to start over? Enough with the self-condemnation…… Mrs Accuser! Judge! and Jury!

There is still room for you to begin anew and turn those frowns into permanent upturned smiles. You aspire for greatness, don’t you? So what is stopping you? Why join the bandwagon? These so-called norms of the society, who has it helped?

Be bold. Break free from the chains of fear and what the world will say. It is high time we stopped listening to what the world thinks and concentrate more on what God thinks and what is good for us. Somebody said, “Whatever is good for your soul, do it”.

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At the end of the day, it’s your life. If you turn out good, the world celebrates you and with you (not minding how you achieved it). If bad, they abandon you (even if they gave you the advice that led you to doom).

So you see, life in itself is complicated. Humans particularly women, naturally are intricate especially when it comes to emotions so don’t let yourself as a woman, be overly complicated. It really is sometimes annoying and bothersome. Let your “Yes” be yes and your “No” be no, so the bible admonishes us. There is no in-between.

There are times we want something or we love someone but we don’t say anything. We want it to come to us and when it doesn’t, we feel so terribly hurt and allow ourselves to be filled with rage. Now, I ask you – rage for what? You hear some women say, “He is my man. I loved him first. He belongs to me. If I can’t have him, then no other would”.

How does this sound to you? What makes you think he belongs to you? Did he commit to you? Did he even as much as say a word to you? Just because you like him deeply and he just happen to smile at your direction, you feel he is yours and you go terrorizing the girl he actually does like.

Sweetheart, get over yourself. You have no basis for anger talk less of taking vengeance. Vengeance on whom? Doesn’t it seem irrational to you?

There is no hard and fast rule about life, love, friendship. Sometimes, you have to go to what you want. If you really like a guy and you know he is free (no girlfriend), make your intentions known. This may not sit well with a lot of folks as the norm is it’s for the guys to ask the ladies out.

How many ladies have lost guys they like because of lack of courage to go up to him first? This is not really like gals asking the guys out. If you like him, just be friends with him and let it progress from there.

If he likes you too, just as you do him, good for you because then, he does the chasing. If not, then get the idea off your head and stay friends, if you can. He probably is not meant for you. Just let the friendship run its natural course.

He would respect you for this. He would respect your courage and boldness. He would respect your confidence. Why? Because it is not what regular people normally do and for you to do this, you are one hell of a lady then.

More so, guys only disrespect ladies when they appear cheap by way of immodest dressing, foul language, bad and terrible character, dirtiness etc. You only appear loose or seem desperate to a guy when you don’t carry yourself well and are not confident.

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Guys do not disrespect ladies who are bold and courageous. Letting a guy know about your feelings doesn’t put the lady in charge of the relationship. A relationship is not based on who expressed his/her feelings first. A guy is always the head in whatever situation – relationship, marriage and the likes. He always takes the lead.

Never force yourself on another. If you do this, then this is you trampling on your own dignity without the help of another. The society says the guys should ask a girl out, right? Well, it is no shock to know that these days, there are some guys that may just be too shy to ask a girl out.

Maybe because the women of these days are filled with courage and know their caliber. “Once a woman knows her worth, she will NEVER settle for less again”, so someone said. Make use of this courage and boldness. If you like a guy, let him know. The worst you will get from him is “I am sorry. Nothing can happen between us”.

Once told this, with your head still raised in dignity, back out politely. Now, you have gained a friend in him. Guys like women who are bold and know what they want. You only lose your respect with a guy the moment you impose yourself on him and don’t respect boundaries.

Respect yourself for you to gain the respect of others. Making a bold step towards something your heart loves, especially if it is another human being has never really worked so well with rules. A guy may not notice you but you notice him and you like him. Tell him.

Your friends will probably jeer at you and mock you but if it works out fine for you and this dude, these same friends will salute your bravery and even if they don’t tell you, some may want to also be that bold and take that step. You would never know if you do not try. Just understand that “No” means “No” and “Yes” means “Yes”.

Let this be one of your abiding principles. Do not fall into the category of women who says “Yes” when they mean “No” just because they are “afraid” of the reaction they may get or “what people may say”. These guys are also sometimes scared of rejection or to put it more subtly, they are scared of the word “No”.

It takes courage for a person (be you a man or woman) to confess his feelings to another for the sole fact that you have no control over the other person’s reaction.

The refined ones would politely and gently let you down but one thing is sure, you have gained their utmost respect for your courage alone while the crude ones, imprudently thinking that for them to be approached, they are one in a million, may be rude, offensive and may possibly be filled with pride.

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This rude behavior is what causes the hurts, pains and lack of respect on the part of the bold one. There really is nothing to be gained by being proud, disrespectful or rude. For you to be approached in the first place, perhaps something nice was noticed about you.

Don’t get over your head and let pride ruin that thing of beauty that was first noticed about you. HUMILITY is the word and it is this quality that will get you to dine with kings and sovereigns.

The bottom line is in all things, show courage and confidence. Be bold and do what you want so long as it is right by you and God.

Never forget how amazing, beautiful, interesting and special you are.

Thank you so much for reading this post. I really hope you found it every bit inspiring and interesting.

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Published by Omoakhuana Anthonia Imoisili