A girl dreams of her wedding day maybe as young as seven but before she decided to wait for her prince in a white horse, she dreamed of first becoming the baby girl in her father’s life. The moment a girl started her first step and opens her palm to reach out to her father or to any male representation—it becomes a seal of unbreakable bond between a father and a daughter.

The role of masculinity in a girl’s early stages is crucial and significant because it creates an emotional balance within her. Her needs of being protected and being provided for will be fulfilled so subconsciously, she feels complete and wouldn’t be seeking for validation from another man as she grows up.

According to PsychCentral, from infancy, girls draw conclusions about what men are like from the men in their life. If there is a father (or a male in her life who takes a father role), that man becomes her guidepost for what to expect of men and what to expect of men’s attitude toward women. His relationship to her mother or his significant other is her template for what her relationship with a man will be when she grows up.

There are many unsung moments worldwide between a daughter and father’s relationship, some are even defining that changed their lives for the better. Before the first boyfriend who kissed her or the first boyfriend to break up with her, a daughter’s father is the first man who ever loved her before anyone else did.

  1. When he carries her in his arms while she is sleeping. One of the classic fatherly experiences, this is probably the best way for a father to show his tenderness to his daughter. She doesn’t know what’s he’s doing but in his mind, he tells himself that he is going to protect this innocent little bundle of joy he is holding. This, of course, happens when the little daughter is aged from 1-9 years old.
  2. When he teaches her how to drive. It could be anything: a three-wheeler bicycle, a two-wheel bicycle, a motorcycle and even a pick-up truck. This could even be the most significant moments repeated as she grows up with him. Through this way, he teaches her independence, perseverance and the thrill of learning how to drive.
  3. When he teaches her how to dance for her prom. He could even be her first dance before the prom night or the spring dance. In his mind, he couldn’t believe that his little girl is starting to become a lady and he is glad that he is there to watch her grow up. In her mind, she will always be her daddy’s little girl no matter what.
  4. When he meets her first boyfriend. Yes, this is indeed very defining in a young woman’s life. How he would treat her first boyfriend would be her basis on how he is going to treat the rest or his preference. As a daughter, she seeks for her father’s approval and trusts him that he would not allow her to be with just some other guy.
  5. When he walks down the aisle with her on her wedding day. He is showing that he is supporting her in her new journey with another man in her life. Although, his main role as a father is irreplaceable in her life, he is willing to already share the responsibility with another man.

 

Happy father’s day!!!

Featured image from theparentcue.org

Published by Royanni Miel Hontucan