1. Be Impeccable with Your Words
2. Don’t Take Anything Personally
3. Don’t Make Assumptions
4. Always Do Your Best

Those four are the highlights of this book. Though it was only a 33-page book. It is worth it. Albeit the bizarre first chapter because of some Toltec beliefs and ideas that I don’t personally believe in, you will find yourself amazed by how the author used some comparison to explain his beliefs about how a life should be.

His idea of “human domestication” is also somehow intriguing because according to him, we are born without any choice but to believe with what our parents and the other people have taught us and he compared it with how dogs are trained. It’s a bit degrading however, he also said, that though we are “domesticated” and were taught about different things, once we reach a certain age of understanding, we were all given a choice to choose on what to believe in, which is making sense.

Another intriguing topic is the concept of “hell”. According to the book, we are confined in hell because of negative things such as fear and anger. And we must follow those four agreements to feel heaven despite being in hell.

” If we compare the dream of human society with the description of hell that religions all around the world have promulgated, we find they are exactly the same.”

“No human can condemn another to hell because we are already there.”

Fear of becoming ourselves.

This is what he thinks the reason why all negativity is around us. If we just try to accept ourselves more, we can be more loving and be more considerate of others.

“Just being our self is the biggest fear of humans.”

“But nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves”

“The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self rejection,and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal.”

 But the idea that really made me love this book is his idea about words. It’s so powerful and made me realize how have I used my words in the past years to myself and of course to other people.

“The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human; it is the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you.”

He also compared our mind with a fertile soil. The seed that we plant there can either be a cause of white or black magic depending on how we use it. Those seeds are the words we perceive from ourselves and other people. That is why, if we curse or say negative things about others, we are planting seeds in other people’s minds and if they nurture it, it will create a much bigger problem that will just create drama in our lives.

Makes you contemplate about how you live your life and how others have affected your life as well.

But, he also said, that though we are only “domesticated” by our parents and other people, we should not be angry for them rather, we should forgive them and start loving them. I also loved how he compared each person with an open wound/disease and that is the reason why people lie and why we don’t want other people to know our true self.

Each of the four agreements makes sense and somehow can be a good way to make peace with yourself and start appreciating the good in others.

“You are loving everything that is around you, because you are loving yourself”

Originally Published on: Books in My Baggage

Published by Trixie Ricablanca