Originally posted on my blog:

I find being a teenager like being in an interrogation room. There we stay for twelve hours a day every time the private investigators think that they've found evidence that points back to us, only to be defeated so they have to let us go. The things that we do, be it how we dress or we move, is always questioned and brought back to the police station for proof that we are something of a deformity to the society, an abnormality, or a product of bad parenting, which, I think, is a poor judgment of character and not a poor taste in character.

And every day, we are sent to that interrogation room to be asked questions that have been repeated over and over again by the private investigators, questions that resemble overused duct tape, questions that act like fingers that poke our skin and look for bumps and lines that the private investigators think shouldn’t be there, questions that feel like trying to gulp a glass of water with a sore throat, questions that make you want to leave the room. Why don’t you brush your hair every day? Why can’t you dress up more decently? Why are you too covered up in oversized T-shirts and jeans? Why don’t you wear sandals instead of your worn-out Chuck Taylors that look like worn-out tires? Why do you dress up like you’re going to a club when it’s only morning? Why is your skirt too short? Why do you flaunt your assets? Why do you hide your assets? Why do you eat too much? Why do you eat too little? Why do you keep checking your phone? Why do you keep playing Pokemon Go? Why don’t you play Pokemon Go? Why do you spend so much time putting on makeup? Why don’t you put on makeup? Why, why, why?

We are a different generation with a different mindset; the generations before us wanted to fight for their rights, so why can’t we do the same? It may seem out-of-hand, but we’ve seen the past and see that we don’t want the same thing to happen again.

It’s tiring. It’s annoying. It’s frustrating. It’s inevitable. It feels as though we’ve been pressured too much to be a kind of person that we tend to fall short of their expectations. We may act like the world is all about us, or that the world is going to end if we can’t have that last slice of pizza, but let us do that. We’re teenagers, and it’s our benefit to act like one. We can’t always behave according to your plans because we have our own, and we also have our own thoughts, we also have our own minds, we also have our own hearts. And because all of these are so complex, we’re still trying to figure them out. But through the process, we are often misunderstood.

We need to feel that liberty before being ensnared by the life people want us to live.

But you know what? We are asked all these questions, but we have the right to stay silent and not have to answer them. Like I said, we’re teenagers, and it’s our benefit to act like one. We are in that phase where we are still finding our footing in this world. Even adults are still trying to find their footing, but I have to admit that it’s easier on us because although we’re not children anymore, we are not yet adults who have to constantly know what we’re doing. Adults were teenagers too, so I know they are able to understand that there are just some of us who want that little wildness in a conservative home, that there are just some of us who can’t offer the good life but can offer their own good heart, that there are just some of us who want the liberty to express ourselves through a medium that, well, adults may not be able to understand now, and that there are just some of us who want to experience life before we hit the “legal age.”

So, private investigators, don’t get mad when you ask those questions and we can’t give you a definite answer. We’re also having a difficult time, too. We’ve only been on this planet for the last how many years, so try giving us a break. I think we can ask for that as a privilege of being a teen.

We still have a lot to learn anyway before we become the adults that society wants us to be.


Published by Alessandra Könst