In life, most of us deprive ourselves of the opportunities we so-long dreamed about from turning into reality because of the mediocre thinking that ‘asking for too much, especially for good life, is too much’. When one blessing pours simultaneously with others, we automatically gear ourselves within the restrictions of all but one choice, thanks to the option ‘Or’, instead of embracing all the blessings through ‘And’.  I would like to illustrate the importance of ‘And’ in this classic out-of-the-box job interview question:

"You are driving along in your car on a wild, stormy night, it’s raining heavily, when suddenly you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for a bus:

  1. An old lady who looks as if she is about to die;
  2. An old friend who once saved your life;
  3. The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.

Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing very well that there could only be one passenger in your car?"

The one who got hired had this as his answer: "I would give the car keys to my Old friend and let him take the Lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the Partner of my dreams."

I bet, for those of us who haven’t encountered this puzzle would tend to choose one over the other remaining two choices depending on the gravity or importance of that particular choice in our life.

See my friend, the moment we confine ourselves to embracing only one, rather than becoming or having all that we want, we signal ourselves and the Universe of a mediocre life. We all possess everything we need to live full, successful, and happy lives. We don’t need to choose between becoming a doctor or a singer, because we can be a doctor and a singer, if we only allow ourselves to fully embrace who we are—our normality as well as our quirks, our strengths and weaknesses, and recognize our capacity. We have the power to transform our future. As David Howitt said, “We inherently embody all of the qualities necessary to enjoy integrated lives…we have the capacity to reshape our future. How? By being modern-day heroes who choose to live lives of passion and precision, artistry and analytics, intuition and intelligence.”

Published by Ma Armelyn Alegria