We all have those doubts. Those moments of insecurities, what if's, and all of those pesky emotions that like to cling to the deep corners of our minds and irritate us continuously like a fly that keeps deciding to rest on the back of your arm. You may swat them away, but then --almost immediately-- you feel the slight tickle once again. It happens to the best of us, or more accurately, the least of us. 

Confidence doesn't radiate from within me. I don't think it has even seen the daylight. It hides and panics about being rejected and humiliated. It's not the "best" of me that this fear gets, but it's the sad, dark, and depressive fraction of myself that seems to outweigh the rest. It's the least of me. It's the worst part of myself that I wish to drown under a sea of assurance. This feeling of uncertainty is the least of you, too. It's the least of everyone.

I can't say that I don't have confidence --I do-- and sometimes, it raises its little head up and mews. But I need it to roar. 

Does everyone have confidence somewhere inside of them? I can't say for sure. Does everyone have the ability to build confidence? I have no idea. Does everyone have the opportunity to try? Of course. Am I willing to try?

I know that self esteem, confidence, self assurance, or whatever you want to call it, isn't something that everyone struggles with. But everyone has a crumple in book of their life. So identify your hindrance, your weakness, or your vice and ask yourself four simple questions:

  1. Does everyone struggle with this?
  2. Can everyone fix this?
  3. Does everyone have the opportunity to try?
  4. Am I willing to try?

It doesn't matter what your financial limitations, where your living, your age, your race, your gender, or your genetics are. The only aspect of your life that holds any value is you. You are not your income. You are not your hometown. You are not your age, your sex, or your ethnicity. And you are most certainly not your family. You are you and all of you have something called opportunity. Does it sometimes fall into someone's hands? Yes, it does. But usually, that someone had to work for that opportunity. They had to try.

I have been told to do something before and I responded with, "I'll try," and they have said, "don't try-- do." But how am I supposed to do if I never try? Or what about the saying, "if at first you don't succeed, try, try again"? Trying is the foundation of doing and you will never do if you never try. 

Try and fail, but don't fail to try. - Stephen Kaggwa



Published by Allison Nicole