"They are nowhere where they need to be" 

I often hear this phrase spoken about people's circumstances and situation and it bothers me.  It bothers me that people put time limits on where someone should be.  Assuming they should be somewhere farther or ahead, as if they are moving slow in their own life.  What's interesting to me is that this is a common phrase especially when someone is financially unstable, going through mental hardships, or just having a lazy period.  It's not up to anyone else to decide where someone should be in their own life.  Even if they are being lazy and should or "need to get themselves together," it's up to the person to decide.  Other unknown things can be going on with that person, but again it's not up to anyone else to decide. 

Progress is determined by continuous change and reflection along with keeping those changes and reflections to your next phases and accomplishments.  The smallest things can be progress, therefore you can determine your own progress.  In this specific point in your life you are where you need to be, but its up to you to continue everyday finding yourself, and that conscious choice will help you find your worth and potential.  The realization and acceptance of acknowledging that you are where you need to be right now will only make you more comfortable with where you are.  

Just keep moving, you will get where you need to be.