A year ago today, my world fell apart yet again. I was dating a man who I thought loved me and wanted to spend his life with me.

I was just coming out of a horrible marriage and was longing to hear those words I had so very much missed for the last 24 years. I was vulnerable and believed everything he was feeding me even when my intuition was screaming something wasn't right and I continued because my life was so barren from emotion.

I bought into it hook, line and sinker and the day I found out he was nothing more than a sociopathic liar, I literally kicked him to the curb with no second chances. I called him out that day for everyone to see. No man was ever going to get over on me more than once. I was done and I was truly hurt as I trusted yet again, after all the pain I endured during my marriage. He knew all that I had gone through and yet, he still chose to hurt me this way.

It was more than I could bear. I shut down emotionally and I went into my writing. I didn't let another man get close to me. I instead got closer to God; I prayed, I cried and I let time heal me.

As time went on, I realized the lessons he had taught me from this pain: that I could make it on my own without a man, that I taught my girls never to put up with a lying, cheating man and that I should always listen to my intuition, always.

This also taught me that even when you’re hurt, you should still open up and reach out to others that are also hurting as I did to his ex-wife, even though everyone thought I was crazy to do so. I knew we were both victims of his sick mind and that she was a good woman who needed a friend and so I offered my friendship to her.

Now here I am a year later and yet again, my world has changed 360o: I have my God who gets me through anything, I have an incredible family and wonderful friends, I have a business I love, a new home I never imagined getting, I finished my book and published it, I am happy and peaceful and I found a new great friend. I am truly grateful for the pain he caused me because I would have never found myself and these lessons without it.

So today my friends no matter how dark it might be, don't give up hope, hold on, look for the lessons that the pain is teaching you and know that when you will look back a year later, time will have made such a difference in your life.

"Be the change you want to see"
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"

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Published by Francesca Villardi (Treadmill Treats)