Have you ever been rejected in your life? Have you ever done your best but the person whom that effort was for didn’t seem to care at all?

If your answer is no, I’d love to have a conversation with you.

If your answer is yes, I’d love to have you here on my page.

It hurts, right? It hurts that every turn down feels like a stab in your heart that has grown into an ugly keloid scar that has permanently lived in one of the most important and sensitive organs in your body.

Let me tell you this: We live in a world where rejection is everywhere. The moment you exited an establishment feeling like useless because the interviewee told you he’d call you but you knew deep inside that you’d just failed another job interview, was the moment you should have already realized that everyone is subject to a teeny tiny shooting pain that felt like a crane just suddenly fell on the head.

That shooting pain is the pain of being rejected.

What hurts even more is when you love someone so dearly that you’re willing to sacrifice everything just to be with her. Then you saw her one afternoon at the cafeteria having lunch with a tall guy with braces. A huge smile matched her sparkling eyes. That sticky staring game will never end, you thought. It would have seemed right to feel jealous but the problem is, there’s no me and her at all. There was only you. And at the end of the day, you decided to just leave the school and throw the bouquet of Peruvian Lilies at the trash bin near the gym.

You would’ve given it to your mom, though. She might have extended its life, at least for the following two days.

One girl might be thinking: If I knew that falling in love with that guy who liked somebody else would hurt me in the end, why am I still hurting this much knowing that the repercussion of my action was just what I’ve expected? I was aware, wasn’t I?

Similarly, we can also ask ourselves: If we knew that rejection is normal and pretty inevitable,  why are we still hurting this much? We’re aware, right?

Rejection, as I’ve mentioned earlier, is inevitable and pretty normal. That is why I’m encouraging you not to dwell on it. Maybe you have experienced it so many times that your first instinct is to lie on your bed and think about it all night while crying, but you must remember that there are a lot of important things that you can do than think about yourself as useless and hopeless as the white colored pencil.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

You can’t.

No, just kidding. Here I listed three steps on dealing with rejection:

Accept it

First, you have to do the opposite of what she has done to you: Acceptance. The first step in moving on from a bitter experience is to accept that sometimes things don’t go the way we want it and the only way to get out of that zone is to breathe and tell yourself, “Okay, this isn’t just my time yet.” Accept what the person has told you. Accept it even it hurts at first. I’m not asking you to smile at her because that’s very sarcastic. Don’t, if that’s what you feel but do not ever disrespect the person just because she hurt you.

Pray for it

You cannot heal your wounded heart alone, neither does liquor. The best way to do after accepting the fact that it’s not yet the right time is to pray to God to renew your strength(Isaiah 40:31), to make your heart whole again (Psalm 34:18) and assure you that though this world may reject you over and over again, God, being your Father, will never do the same (Psalm 94:14).

Look forward to trying out again

If Thomas Alva Edison has had approximately 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb before he could even create one solid working one, then you have 1,000 chances to try out things again. To apply for a job. To love one more time. If you have prayed for it and believed that God had already equipped you to fit the job, then surely as the sunrise tomorrow morning, you’ll hear what you’ve been wanting to hear.

If you’re working so hard yet your bosses don’t appreciate you, that’s fine, because God is there to give you a thumbs up. If your thesis has been rejected by your professor, that’s fine, because He will wipe your tears and give you wisdom to revise your project and change the heart of your professor.

I have this friend of mine who has experienced a lot of rejections in his life. But I admire him so much because whenever I talk to him, I just can’t see a hint of sadness on his face. He’s always  happy and faithful. One night he shared his life verse to me and I was really encouraged by it:

We are afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed, but not driven to despair;persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed; always carrying in the body the death of Jesus, so that the life of Jesus may also be manifested in our bodies. (2 Corinthians 4:8-10)

Jesus wants to let you know that He has also experienced rejection (John 15:18Isaiah 53:3So if he has overcame all the bullies and the meanest of the people, so can you.

So can you.

“..In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart! I have overcome the world.”
(John 16:33)

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Published by Muyang Smiles