How often in our lives do we find ourselves mentally waiting for something, not a bus, or a train. Not allowing our lives to move on.

We are often waiting for the right conditions, we are waiting for someone’s approval or permission.

That’s because we’ve been trained that way from an early age, it’s all part of making us compliant. ‘Ask before you do that’ ‘Have you got permission to do that?’ and ‘you need permission to go to the toilet’ and so on. Our lives are full of expectations of needing permission.

What if we decided to stop waiting? What might happen? What if we just did things without asking others first?

The thing is there never are perfect conditions, we are not a school anymore having to ask permission to go to the toilet. The approval of others is an internal excuse because we can not face of own fears. We do not need permission to build our dreams or be happy.

Perhaps we could replace waiting with allowing ourselves. It is all a choice in our heads, as the world is not waiting for us, we have a duty to ourselves to go out there and be our best. Share with the world our creations, our work.

Take control, ‘take permission’ as Andy Traub says.

Then don’t wait for the applause, the congratulations, carry on allowing yourself to do your thing. By asking approval you are compromising your best for other people’s opinions.

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Published by Philip Dodson