Everyone has that person. The one that “got away,” the one you never got the chance to be with. For years you hold on to the what-ifs or the thought..we would be so great together, why can’t they see it? You get along so well and care about each other so much – so why aren’t you together? You have people constantly asking what’s going on with the two of you, your only response being, “I don’t know this is just us, it’s what we do.” Sometimes you have to take relationships for what they are. Someone once told me that people come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. Some people are actually meant to be in your life for a short period, but you make them such a big part of your life that it turns in to years of effort and energy spent on someone who doesn’t feel the same way that you do. You can’t force a relationship that was never intended to be forever, to make you feel the way a ‘lifetime relationship’ should. Someone can care about you so much but still not want to date you. We’ve all been there. You’ve found yourself so invested in the relationship you’ve built but the other person isn’t, which causes a hold over your thoughts and your emotions. In turn you think – is it me? How could I be so attached to this person when the entire time, the feelings weren’t even mutual? If they were mutual, you two would be living a life together – not apart. When you realize what the relationship really has been the whole time – that the connection you two had was more one sided and you’re not even ‘their person,’ that is when you find the ability to move on. Because you start to think..now I know. All those questions I had, all those times I thought we were each other’s “person”, it was all just clearly in my head. I thought we had more between us than we actually did, I made it way more than it was. But..that’s only one way to think about it. Every situation is a learning experience. You have to ask yourself, what can I take from this? How can I look at this in a positive way ? What would I do differently next time? Every dating experience brings you closer to figuring out what you ultimately want, and don’t want.

❥ A.