If a six-year old repeatedly hits another child, it is considered poor parenting, and the responsibility of the action goes to the parents. However, I wonder when people need to start taking responsibility of their own actions. A child’s upbringing will definitely influence his/her behaviour, motivated by values instilled into him/her. But when do you say somebody “did not know any better”, and when do you say somebody “should have known better”?

I have met people who, at 20, blame their parents for their bad habits and poor behaviour. But I have also met people who, by the time they hit 20, take full responsibility of their actions and refuse to attribute values and behaviour – whether good or bad – to upbringing, because they know better, and they know that they get to choose what kind of person they want to be.

Perhaps it could have something to do with locus of control. Perhaps it could be neurobiological. Perhaps it’s a person’s maturity level and emotional intelligence. Most likely, it’s all of these (and very likely more).

The question remains unanswered, however, for I do not know when exactly the responsibility of an individual's action stops going to the parents. I'd like to hear as many opinions on this as I can, so do leave a comment here, or on my personal blog.

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Originally published at dinoclaire.wordpress.com on November 3rd, 2016.
Edited for My Trending Stories on November 19, 2016.

Published by Claire Leong