I love being alone.

Yet I don't consider myself to be an introvert. Good thing, nothing has ever been specific about what an introvert really is. Studies say, a person could be a combination of both depending on the circumstance or the image that one projects. Thanks to that.

I am outgoing sometimes but only when I drink too much coffee or munch plenty of chocolates. However, I  noticed that as I age, my longing for that 'alone time' has become a big deal for me.

Here's why.

It's a time to tone down.


Meetings. Night outs. Petty fights.

Five times a week, let's say 16 hours of our day is spent with interacting with co-workers, family, neighbors, honking cars, dirty alleys, traffic and with the unending feed in the social media where everyone shouts all that happens in their lives.

A time alone gives you the space to unload and tone down a bit of the emotions you are feeling as resulted by these circumstances that we face each day. Conventional scientific wisdom recognizes six "classic" emotions: happy, surprised, afraid, disgusted, angry, and sad. Imagine feeling all of these every hour  or the least, 5 times a day! Don't you deserve a break?!

It's a time to evaluate.


Most hours of our life are made of decisions. From the smallest actions such as the coffee you choose in the morning or up to the biggest ones such as approving a big time company project. All our decisions in the present are sneak peeks of the future. So you better have an evaluation process of the things you chose and you did not. Maybe there is still time to make them right.

“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives - choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”
― Aristotle

It's a time to ask yourself.


No man is an island as the cliche goes. Seeking advice from your trusted peers is a good way to acquire a different perspective of the life you are living. Yes, they will be able to give you good, lame and even an unsolicited advice-  but either way, what matters most is that there are a bunch of these people who care about you and with what you do with your life.

Nevertheless, remember that at the end of the day, it is only you who can determine and act on the buttons you pushed. There are questions that only you could answer and instances that only you can figure out how to handle.

It's a time to reminisce.


The past is history. But the past is a pile of back-end stories that you ought to remember in order to gauge where you are now. Nostalgia is a big piece in our brain that our senses remember-- the smell, the taste, the texture. Everything that happens is being recorded. Well indispensably, we have a big heck of a library and a data storage center as enormous as Google's!

P.S: Happy memories motivate us to make more; while the blue ones make us wiser.

It's a time to think bigger than you are now.


When you are alone, remote from the clutter, you tend to think more clearly of the things that you truly want. Dream something that is impossible. It could be nearly out-of-this-world, but it is okay. Dreams are meant to be like that! Well, for me at least.

Thinking of the impossible or at least the difficult is the first step of getting bigger and finding the better. Challenge yourself!

In conclusion


Alone time could make us unlock things that we may never truly get from interaction. As you will notice, all the reasons I mentioned are self-initiated processes. It is an act of the self that may bear powerful ideals and realizations.

Solitude is not actually creating a wall between you and the world; rather, it is a preparation for the wars and wonders that it brings.

But don't get me wrong. Please don't be alone for the rest of your life. Okay?

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