Ok, so I'm no relationship expert. But I've seen enough to know enough.

I'm sure that I'm not the only one who has noticed such a vast difference between dating a few years ago and dating now. It seems to be getting increasingly impossible to find a decent person to settle down with. No longer is it an "I like you, you like me. Let's be together" situation. And I think I may know why...

Somehow, over the past couple of years, we have been brainwashed to believe that we are all suppose to look and be a certain way. Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat and the list goes on. Now don't get me wrong, I have most of the above but that's why I feel the way I do now. We follow these unrealistic looking "models" and begin to genuinely believe that that's what your future girlfriend must look like, or what you should look like in order for a guy to accept you.

Let me tell you one thing...that picture you see, it's not what you think it is. About 20 selfies have actually been snapped before the 'perfect' one was taken. I know this because I did it myself. It creates a false indication of what a real human being is suppose to look like. Even though I may know how to get the best angle in a selfie, when I lay on the couch and watch TV there will be a double chin involved - guaranteed.

Aren't we tired of going through all the effort of putting on 45minutes worth of make up on and snapping away for 30minutes, just a for a picture that will more than likely never be opened again. What happened to being true to yourself? Where did our self respect go? I don't know about you, but I wanna be that girlfriend who looks just as good when I wake up than I did the night before.

We need to stop giving these false impression. People are getting more and more shallow with each Instagram update. We complain when a guy has used us or decided to stop texting us yet we encourage the idea of false realities. And yes, I fully blame social media for making us girls feel like we need to look a certain way to be considered sexy. I say, "screw that!" Every single one of us has something to offer. We all have something about ourselves that's worth being proud of. Even if some days we have to look a little harder for that something.

It's time we stay true to ourselves. It's time we stop creating unrealistic ideas of what women have to offer in order for guys to stop being so shallow. It's a nasty, vicious circle! Unfollow those profiles that make you feel bad about yourself and start focusing on what makes you you.  This is the first step to finding love. I know it's corny but you have to truly love yourself in order to be able to find lasting love elsewhere.

Every single one of us is a piece of art - show it off to the world!


Published by Jodi-Lee Melrose