A little insane, maybe. But not stupid.

Everyone has those moments when they are too hardheaded to listen to common sense. I, for one, have a problem with it when it comes to something I desire. Even if God knocked on my door right now and said: “DO NOT DO THIS!” I would still count on 10 fingers why this person deserves another chance, or why this dream is still worth pursuing.

For the sake of this post, I am going to talk about the former: when a person is not the one you should pursue.

I get it. Emotions are a serious thing that can override any sense of logic that you may have. This person makes you feel good. You think that “haters” are telling you bad things about them because they don’t want to see you two together. Rumors are simply rumors, right? But when the rumors hit too close to home, it’s time to start questioning yourself and your partner.

As women, we hate to be confrontational. I know for myself that confrontation is the hardest thing I can do. You don’t want to be labeled as “crazy” or blamed for having suspicions. But simply asking questions can save you from a lifetime of heartache.

Case in point: I had someone in my life who was not a reputable guy. Sure he did good things in the community, but the way he treated women was disgusting. People told me to stay away but, lo and behold, I did not listen. I believed that I was different. And although the anointing of the Lord is on me, some things are just not worth changing.

Even though things started good, I was constantly proven correct by my peers. I had egg on my face and was constantly embarrassed by this person. Most of the things that he claimed to me were not true but people seem to enjoy lies more if they are more entertaining. So, after all of this what did I do? I TRIED AGAIN.

Yes, I know. It pains me to say it.

I tried again. And I was embarrassed once again. At this point, I wanted to hit my head on a tree to spark some intelligence back into my brain. How could I be so stupid? How could I let this person hurt me again?  

After beating myself up, I stood up. I wiped the dirt off of my jeans. I stopped playing the victim. What he did was wrong but my future will be better. I had to learn the hard way how to stand up for myself. I had to learn to ignore obviously evil things that are covered in pretty packaging. Silver caps look good until you see the cavities that are underneath.

Take it from me, what you think is good for you probably isn’t if your friends and family are warning you against it. These people have your best interest at heart. They want what’s good for you. Listen to them, open your heart to God and he will show you the truth. He definitely showed me.

Published by Morgan J.