Sometimes loving people is the most painful thing you can do to yourself.
When you care about someone you put their needs before your own; you'll open doors for them, let them have the last piece of your favorite cake, and you hold them when they are hurting. It’s a beautiful thing when someone puts the well-being of another before their own.

But I’ve been thinking, and sacrificial love is often the scariest thing you can do. When you do this, you put yourself in a very vulnerable position, exposing the most fragile parts of your heart and sometimes those pieces of your heart are mistreated.

People take you for granted. They don’t notice or appreciate the way you leave them coffee in the morning, or how you always let them go first when waiting in line to order ice cream. They don’t know that you are hurting because you cover it up to heal their pain instead. They forget all the times you stayed up to listen to them rant or wipe away their tears. They don’t know how you pray for them every single day. They use you, and they take their anger out on you because they think you’ll always be around. They don’t return your acts of kindness. They get angry when you offer them friendly advice, and they bring up every wrong thing you’ve ever done. They lie to you, take advantage of your kindness, and make promises they can’t keep.
Because they're too wrapped up in themselves, they don't see that all you're trying to do is love them.

After a while, you will grow tired, and you’ll be tempted to leave. You’ll want to walk away from the drama they cause, their hurtful words, their indifference, bad decisions and the way they drain the life out of you. You will want to find people who make love easy and a little less painful. Your heart that loves so hard will grow tired of getting no love in return.
You’ll be tempted to throw your hands in the air because you deserve better than that!

But do you?


The truth is, you are doing that same thing.

You think you deserve a sincere, genuine, selfless love.
But just like that one person in your life that seems to miss all the ways you love them; you miss the ways you are loved too.

Every time we forget God we break His heart. He knows the pain of watching the people He loves to go on in life without ever acknowledging Him.

Sometimes we do this consciously, but other times we don’t realize that we are taking our God for granted and missing the fact that all He wants to do is love us. He desires to love us even though we never thank Him and even though we can’t see His love because we’re too wrapped up in ourselves.

When I consider how Jesus loved me in such a way that HE DIED FOR ME, I cannot even begin to comprehend the power of that kind of love. Love that asks for nothing in return.

I am so thankful that my God does not love as I love. He does not love while expecting love in return (although He does desire for us to love Him back), He loves unconditionally. No matter what you do, or say, or where you go, God will always love you. He will never run out of love or decide He wants to love someone a little more lovable. Someone who makes love easy.

If we are honest with ourselves, we can see that we are hard-to-love people.
We're ungrateful and selfish and always seek our own benefit, and it's from those kinds of individuals that we seem to hold back our love.

With God, you will never have to worry about Him holding back His love. He lets it flow freely to the point that it gushes over you and overwhelms your life. Whether you deserve it or not - And just for the record, we never deserve His love.
His love is so strong and so abundant that it makes its way to our hurting hearts and fills every space, every nook, cranny and all the pieces we thought were unrepairable. His love does it all.

The love that we can offer is so small compared to our Savior’s love. When I look at my weak, flawed, and petty attempts at sacrificial love, I can’t help but feel a sting of guilt knowing how often I must break the heart of God all because He loves me so much more deeply and intimately than I could ever understand. How many times have I ignored the blessings God granted me or questioned His love?

If my wimpy and flimsy love towards others results in personal heartache when people mistreat me, how much more heartache and sorrow must the very Creator of life and love feel when I do that very thing to Him?
But He still loves me.
And He commands us to love as He loves.


 “A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another: just as I have loved you, you also are to love one another. By this all people will know that you are my disciples, if you have love for one another.” John 13:34-35


But we can’t do it on our own. Our broken, sinful hearts are unable to muster up the kind of love that we are commanded to show. We must pray earnestly for God to give us the love we need to show to others and seek His word for examples of sacrificial love (I Corinthians 13 is always a great chapter to go to for an example of what love should look like).

Next time you’re tempted to walk away from that person who isn’t so easy to love, consider Jesus. His love makes up for it all. His love will empower you to love sacrificially.
Once you begin to acknowledge His love, you’ll realize that His love is the only love you need. If you pay close attention, you’ll start to see how His love touches every detail of your daily life and that if it weren't for His love, your heart wouldn’t even be beating right now. He gives you breath and life, and He grants you the ability to love.

He loves you despite your unlovability.

You don’t deserve that kind of love.

None of us do. But here we are, being loved, and we miss the whole thing. 
And the more you begin to understand just how undeserving of God's love you are, the more precious it becomes.
So, keep loving those difficult people who don’t deserve it. But bear in mind that neither do you.


“But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” (Romans 5:8)
 

“If you love those who love you, what benefit is that to you? For even sinners love those who love them.” (Luke 6:32)

Don’t just love the people that make you feel good. Love until it hurts and God’s love will fill up those holes that no one else will.

Published by Jaycie