So, here it goes. My first article on a site where tons of people might see this. I was so used to posting my thoughts on a different site thinking 1 or 2 people would read them, but when you're offered an opportunity to voice the message you want to voice, you can't turn that down.

First and foremost, I'm the type of person to put others before myself. I want to know that I can make another person happy. It doesn't matter if it's in a big way or a small way. But sometimes putting yourself first is a good thing. With that being said, I want to know what your definition of happiness is.

Mine is simple. Happiness is being able to love yourself for who you are and not have anyone control or dictate your way of life. Being free to be who you are is one of the most important things in life. In the past, I definitely felt lost and scared and thought in no way, shape or form would I ever be happy. 

That changed on May 11th, 2016.

I think one of the best ways to spread your message across is letting people know what experiences you've been through so you can relate to as many of them as possible. So they don't feel alone. Because no one ever is.

I could go on forever about the emotional damage and misery I went through over the past couple of years, but that's not what's important. What's important is that I overcame every obstacle that was thrown my way and started to become someone I never thought I could become. I became stronger, more courageous, smarter and more proud of myself than I ever thought I could be. 

I'm going to use the word monster right now because that is exactly what everything revolved around. It revolved around this monster that so desperately wanted and needed to control every aspect of my life. It turned me into someone who hated herself. It turned me into someone who had to fake their kindness every step of the way and go against what I believed in. That' done now.

May 11th, 2016 was my last day at my job.

Words cannot describe the feeling of the toxicity of something finally leaving. I finally felt free. I finally felt happy. Nothing could dictate my life anymore. That awful feeling inside of me that kept saying, "What bad thing is going to happen today?" finally left. 

I am who I am because of a bad situation I had to go through. I am who I am because I finally took a stand for myself when I knew something had to be done. 

My definition of happiness is simple. Love yourself, be who you are, don't let anyone dictate your life and be free.

What's yours?

Published by Allison Ecker