Thank you for all the pain

Thank you for all the pain

I wrote about forgiving my best friend before and today I would like to thank her and everyone else who caused me pain because they have all taught me valuable lessons I needed to learn whether I liked it or not. I'm thankful for everything in my life and I tell you every day that I live in a state of gratitude so even after all I've been through, I still give thanks. There are so many days that I cry because I am so grateful for all of my life.


I would not change one thing in my life, not a single one, for everything I've been through taught me a lesson and made me who I am today. It's because of all of these things that I am in this state of gratitude: 


It's because I lost so many loved ones that I will always appreciate and tell my loved ones know how much I love them while they are in my life.


It's because of my drug and alcohol addiction when I hit rock bottom that I learned to trust God for his help to clean me up.


It's because of my rapist that I've learned to truly forgive a person.


It's because of the men in my life that didn't step up that I will recognize a good man when God gives me the right one.


It's because of Mr. Con Artist that I taught my daughters a lesson of how to not put up with a lying, cheating man.


It's because I was in a verbally abusive marriage for so many years that I know my worth now and I know what I won't put up with.


It's because of friends who hurt me and let me down that I've learned not everyone is here for the whole ride and who my real friends are.


It's because of my girls that I've learned that even your own kids can be cruel to you and yet you still will put down your life for them.


It's because of all of my failures that I've learned to never give up, to keep getting up no matter how many times life knocks you down.


It's because my grandmother was such a mean and negative person because I learned I never wanted to be like her.


It's because of all the pain and hurt I have endured that life has made me into a strong determined woman.


I am grateful for my mom and dads (yes, both my real and stepfather) for teaching me the value of hard work and that a girl can do anything a boy can do and that money doesn't buy happiness which is a lesson I didn't realize for a long time.


It is because of God that I realized that I am blessed and that I can count on him for my every need, that I must look for the lessons in my pain, that I must forgive and love everyone, even my enemies, no matter how hard it is. I am grateful for all the pain for I would have never known how blessed I am now. All of these people and all of these events made me live in this sense of gratitude each and every day because I know where I've been and what I've been through. I am so glad I am here wiser, stronger, smarter and able to hopefully help others see that they will get through their tough times. There is a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow and you can change and do anything you set your mind to!


So today my friends, remember not everything that happens to you is bad. Don't look at it as "poor me, why me!". Don't look at all of these things and these people that did you wrong. No. Look at it as "what is the lesson?".  Look at what you do have and how you are blessed in other areas in your life. Ask yourself how can I change? Overcome and be better for it. It's all up to you; either you can say look at all the pain you caused me or you can say thank you for the pain.


"Be the change you want to see"
"And just when the caterpillar thought his life was over...he turned into a beautiful butterfly"


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Published by Francesca Villardi (Treadmill Treats)

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